Trying not to feel regret about postponing...

Whew I looked at how much money, time and stress has been significantly reduced.

Just think about why you postponed. Not only because of the restrictions, but to also keep your family & friends safe. Yes the numbers have been going down but the virus is very much still there.


You’re still having a minimony on the original day, you’ll still get married and you’ll have a wonderful time next year in a much safer setting!

I agree with the previous comments, and would also like to add that you should plan something fun for your original date! That helped my fiance and I not feel sad as our original date approached, but instead we looked forward to it. We planned a weekend away with a couple friends, and I put together a gift basket for him that included COVID themed coffee mugs, wine glasses, wine, snacks, etc. You could do something similar, where you take a trip for the weekend, or you could do a special date night at a fancy restaurant, or a movie night at home, or a spa day with friends, etc. You could also buy a mini cake from your cake baker for you and your fiance to share on your original date. Make the day into a happy memory!

Oops, sorry - I misread your post and didn't realize you're doing a minimony. That will make the day special! You'll get to celebrate the day twice, once this year and once next year!

10/16/20-10/14/21 bride. We postponed until next fall also and we are waiting to do everything then. As the date gets closer i have been crying non stop thinking about everything we should be doing in the final weeks. However I know that given the unfortunate circumstances this was for the best. While numbers are going down here in New York I know that most of our closet immediate family would not be comfortable coming to our wedding in just a few weeks. It sucks but I know it will be worth the wait. Hang in there, next fall will be here before we know it.

We made the decision back in June to move our October wedding to next year. We are still doing a minimony this year, but like you I started to feel like we made the wrong decision when things started reopening. Indoor dining just reopened in our state a couple weeks ago, and I started to have guilt about pushing it back. But then I thought about all the friends and family who said they didn't want to travel this year, who were concerned about big gatherings, the fact that we can't have dancing still in our state, and I realized that this was the best decision for us. We will have our tiny ceremony this year, which is actually what FH wanted all along, and hopefully we can have our big celebration next year Your minimony will still be beautiful, and waiting for the reception next year will be worth it.

You made the right choice! Cases have gone down, but the risk hasn't disappeared. Try to focus on what you ARE going to have this year instead of what you're not having (also you will have it eventually) and ignore the people who are mad about not being there.
If you're having a hard time imagining that you'll really be able to appreciate your smaller wedding look for people on here who have already had theirs. Almost everyone (including me) thinks their day was perfect, and I'm sure you will, too.

Dude I think you made a wonderful decision! Because even if you still went thru with your celebration now, it wouldn’t be the wedding you envisioned

I live in So Cal. I'm sure this is incredibly difficult, but I truly believe you did the right thing..... The way things have gone in the last 6 months, I will not be surprised if 13 seconds after they say things are so much better, they are claiming there's another surge and they are shutting everything down again. Last night on the news on the one hand they were reporting the numbers were better and on the other the LA County Health representative was saying she was "alarmed by the anticipated post-Labor Day increase in positive tests...." (Hasn't happened yet, she just EXPECTS it to....) Especially in CA, I just don't trust that restrictions won't continue to swing wildly. With politics, the election, and public sentiment, there are just too many unpredictable factors influencing decision making.

I'd continue to focus on making your minimony as awesome as possible and know that if nothing else, you've sacrificed what you can to protect the health of those you love. Next year will be here before you know it!

Hi former date twin! I also postponed my 10/24/2020 wedding and have no regrets about it. It stinks, don’t get me wrong, but the reality is that the situation with COVID isn’t ok anywhere even if numbers are going down. You’re not being too hasty. There’s no vaccine yet and there may not be one widely available until close to this time next year. There have been serious spreads at weddings even with a smaller guest list, so if you originally decided to postpone out of concern for your guests, then I’d feel solid in not having made a mistake by postponing. I totally feel you in the postponement blues as our original day approaches. I wish for both of us that we could have had our originally planned weddings when we originally planned them to happen. Hang in there 💕

My former wedding date was 7/22/2021 and postponed to 7/21/2022. Although we had a lot of time we wanted to make sure that it was safe enough to have a wedding. I did start having the blues when projections on vaccines started to come out. But it went away after I told myself why we were doing it. Postponing allowed us to pay off the wedding and be able to buy a house next year and also be able to save for our honeymoon. It’s all happening perfectly and I’m honestly happy about the change. Just keep reminding yourself why you did it.

I know how you feel. Our original wedding was supposed to be in April but we postponed to July in hopes the heat would calm things down. When it didn't we decided to go ahead with a minimony with our immediate familt in July and moved the big wedding to next July. However after doing so I felt sad about pushing it so far away, espically seeing as how some people are still finding ways to have their wedding. I think if we would have kept it to this year I would have had family members who would not have felt safe coming. Our wedding will be around our 1st anniversary so that's something to look forward too, and I got the chance to do two different wedding looks. Things will all work out you!

My daughters wedding was to be for 120 on 11/6/20 in western New York. Unfortunately we only allowed to have 50. They decided to do a small wedding with immediate family on their original day 11/6/20, small dinner afterwards. Big reception next year on the same day 11/6/21 which will be their 1 year wedding anniversary. How cool is that.