Hi all! I'm mainly seeking advice/clarity on what to do next.
I am having trouble with a bridesmaid who is normally excited to celebrate her friends. My maid of honor asked the bridesmaids for availability for the bachelorette party and this bridesmaid in question was the only one with a scheduling conflict. However she waited a couple of days to actually reply to the MOH with that information, and then when a solution was offered she still wouldn't/couldn't budge and inappropriately replied with no offer of help, alternatives, etc.
Since then, I haven't been able to comfortably talk about the wedding with her. We get very little responses, most unenthusiastic (mostly the reaction bubbles on iMessages). She kind of perked up for a couple of more recent conversations in our group messages but not a whole lot.
Recently, in conversation with a different bridesmaid/friend, she was told that the other bridesmaid is no longer going on the other trip planned that conflicted with my bachelorette party, and she also told me she was invited to a bachelorette party for a friend of a friend this past weekend and wanted/planned to go but last minute couldn't make it.
So now I am hurt, because not only do I have a friend who will not participate in bridal party conversations, never told me specifically about the conflict (not coming forward to me about potentially missing my bachelorette weekend), but she was boasting to me about missing a friend of her friend's bachelorette party and can't bring herself to mention mine or even ask about my wedding process or anything. Other bridesmaids have asked to help, what am I thinking about certain details, etc.
I know this sounds very selfish, maybe bordering on Bridezilla, but I'm really just concerned. I know money and travel is not the issue for her, she lives away from me and has for about 2 years now. I was really excited to include her. I'm afraid I may have to have the hard conversation with her and ask if she just isn't interested in being in the bridal party. Thanks for making it this far! Sorry it was so long! 