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Trouble Choosing Bridesmaids

Heather, on January 14, 2021 at 3:02 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 4

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Hi everyone! I am having trouble choosing my bridesmaid! I just don’t have a lot of girlfriends and most of my friends are guys. I am planning on asking one of my close guy friends to be a Bridesman but I still want a few more bridesmaids. There are two girls who are incredibly important to me that I met while working at summer camp 3/4 years ago. After camp ended and I moved away, we haven’t really talked but they’re still important to me and I am so thankful for the impact they’ve made on my life that I can’t imagine asking anyone else. I just feel so bad for asking them to be my bridesmaid when we haven’t spoken in so long. Also, they live about 6-7 hours away from the venue.

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Latest activity by Maggie, on January 14, 2021 at 4:03 PM

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SLY · on January 14, 2021 at 3:12 PM
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Only choose those that are the closest to you. People that you've talked to recently and can come to for anything! There's no rule that says you have to have girls in your bridal party, but if you really want a few to be included, then choose only the closest friends you have.
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Amanda · on January 14, 2021 at 3:15 PM
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Personally, I’d find it strange for someone I haven’t spoken to in years/don’t speak to regularly to ask me to be a bridesmaid.
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Jasmine S. · on January 14, 2021 at 3:28 PM
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How far away they live doesn't matter. If they love you and want to support you, they'll be there. However, I would find it strange to be invited by someone I hadn't even talked to in 3 years. It's a difficult choice. You don't have to have them at all, maybe you can just have your "man of honor." If you want the sides to be even, you may have to talk to your fiancé.
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Maggie · on January 14, 2021 at 4:03 PM
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I agree that asking people you haven't talked to in years to be bridesmaids sounds awkward at best. You have some time before you need to ask them. Can you work on rekindling the friendships first? Focus on the friendships for their own sake, not for the goal of having bridesmaids, and see what comes of it.
But also, it's completely fine to just have a bridesman. Don't fill spots just to fill spots.
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