Tricky Invitation Wording

We did "together with their families (brides name) and (grooms name) request the pleasure of your company to celebrate their marriage"

Could you do the invitation for the wedding as planned, but the RD invitation could be Mrs Mom and Mr Stepdad invite you...

@swissms I didn't realize I needed formal invites for RD? Our bridal party already knows about it because it's actually at our hotel.

"Together with our families" is an easy catch all

You need invitations for the RD. It's an official event so it needs invitations. For the wedding invitation, could you say Mr. And Mrs. (Insert last name) request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter Sarah Jane to John Michael, son of the late Insert Name here and Mrs. Insert Name Here and then follow with the date and time details?

If your FH has a good relationship with his step dad and he doesn't mind him being listed as one of his parents you could do it just like you were but...

"Daniel Paul son of Mr. and Mrs. John Stepdad and the late Mr. Jack Dad. "

Really that only adds the words "Mr. and" otherwise it's the same amount of words.

Yeah. I will have to figure it out. I definitely am NOT saying together with our families because that doesn't mention his dad and that's very important to him. He has a good relationship with his step dad but definitely would not want it to say that he is his son.

So hard to figure out the right way to say it!

I think what you have is fine for the wedding since your parents are hosting and paying for it - and he IS the son of ____ and the late _____. Unless you want to put son of "Mrs. Stepfather's first name Stepfather's last name" and the late "Mr. ________."

But I agree - separate invitations for the rehearsal dinner that has his mom and stepfather's name on it as host.

Generally for wording of the invite, you acknowledge those who are paying for/hosting the wedding (or whatever event).

Sorry, I can't think of a concrete answer on how to word the invite to include everyone.

ETA, took out some unneeded words

I don't think that because they are paying for the rehearsal dinner that their names need to be on the wedding invitation. You should include them on the rehearsal dinner invitation which can be more informal. I sent everyone an evite.

Wait, wait, actually deceased people shouldn't be on invites. I believe according to etiquette they shouldn't because they are unable to act as "host".

RDs are small affairs, and the guests are usually contacted personally. When it became normal to print up formal invitations for an event that isn't even necessary is beyond me.

An RD includes all persons included in the wedding party and their SOs. In addition, it includes the immediate family members (mother, father, siblings) of the couple. The children of any and all of the participants is expected. If you want to honor grandma/grandpa, invite them as well. However, OOT guests are not part of the rehearsal, and therefore, they do not need to attend the RD.

OP, your FH's father has passed, so to include his name as a host of the RD makes absolutely no sense. He is not in a position to host anything. If you want to honor him, add him as the father of your FH on the formal invitation (FH, the son of the late Jack Jones and Mrs. Susan Jones Smith) is acceptable. You do not need to list the name of his mother's husband unless he's paying for the wedding, but that name would be inserted elsewhere on the invitation. When it comes to invitations, it's really quite simple: the son of _______ and ______, and the daughter of ________ and _______.

Obviously deceased people can't host, That's why we aren't putting his late father as a host. We are simply stating he is the son of him.

When you name people on the invitation, it means they're hosting.

Not if you word it mr and mrs jones and mr and mrs smith request your presence at the marriage of Jennie and dan, son of the late dan. I don't think that reads like someone from beyond the grave is inviting you to a wedding.

You would be fine to use the wording that you had and not put the step dad on the wedding invite. Then do RD invites and put that it is hosted by his mom and step dad.

I agree with MIss G.

You don't need to change the wording for your wedding invites, leave them as they are. The RD is a separate event with separate hosts, so his mom and step-dad's names will be on there.