Transportation for guests

It has always been the responsibility of guests to arrange their own transportation. Don’t go into debt covering this for them.

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Thank you for this! This has been weighing on me. I suppose if they really want to join us, they should be able to figure it out. If they don't want to then they don't have to join us.

Social media unfortunately has created unrealistic expectations that have never before been a factor in wedding planning and it makes couples feel inadequate that they can’t afford to cover expenses for guests that have never been their responsibility as hosts. This can be anything from attire, hair/makeup, transportation and lodging and the list goes on. Guests cover these costs in the past and currently. Don’t give into pressure that makes you uncomfortable. It is not a violation of etiquette either because you are not creating a social situation where guests are uncomfortable or inconvenienced by you not paying for car rentals or hotels for them.

I see your wedding isn't until November 2024. Can you pick an afterparty location that is closer and walkable from the restaurant? This will be easier on guests and make it more likely to stick around for a 3rd Act, so to speak. One casual afterparty option is the hotel where everyone will be staying.

Your idea of transport is thoughtful, lets guests relax and drink alcohol if they choose. I've seen transport provided with weddings that have a good number of out of town guests staying at one hotel. Do note, that transport is booked in multi-hour increments rather than number of rides, so this would be a very expensive night with 3 locations and return. However, with your smaller guest list, people can certainly carpool and take taxis.

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Hi! Thanks for the input. I'll keep looking for other options that are close together. It would be a lot for us to pay for everyones transportation but it is also asking a lot to have everyone drive/find a ride for things that are kind of far apart.

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Thank you! I'm going to continue exploring some other options for things closer in distance but if it doesn't work, I will just let everyone figure it out!

While you are not obligated to pay for transportation, I would say 30 minutes is just about the the outer limits of reasonable distance between ceremony and venue. I don’t know how far things are from where guests live or are staying, but I’d be mindful of limiting the need to drive or take Ubers all over the place.

Hi and Congratulations. Transportation is ridiculously priced and i opted not to pay for pay for transportation. But one thing i am doing is providing $25 UBER gifts cards in the gift baskets of my out of town guests. I hope this gives you and idea on how to cut some costs