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Just Said Yes September 2023

Transportation for guests?

Kirsten, on October 29, 2022 at 1:43 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9
My wedding is in a small town about 30 minutes from my fiancé and I's hometown. There is a local motel in this town that gets good reviews about a 10 minute walk from the venue and a few Air BnBs. The nearest chain hotel is 20 minutes away (in our hometown). There are a couple Lyft/Ubers around but not nearly as much as a city. We are having a cash bar at the wedding. My family doesn't really drink, but my fiancé's side does. I've heard online that people provide busses for their guests to prevent drunk driving, but I think this a regional thing because no one I know has ever heard of this so I'm not sure what we should do. We are in the Midwest. Honestly if I was a guest I'd rather figure out my own DD or just not get wasted so I could drive myself, I wouldn't want to ride with others.


On the invites I plan on listing info about the motel and AirBnb's in town, and the hotels outside of town. Is this a situation where we should provide busses? Most of our guests will be staying with family in our hometown anyway, so it's not like everyone will be staying at one hotel and I'm thinking it might be more of a hassle to coordinate than it's worth. I should also note that the ceremony and reception is in the same venue, so guests would only need to drive for that.
Also, the reason we chose this venue and not one in our hometown was because my fiancé is active duty in the military which means there's a possibility we'd have to reschedule if he gets deployed. This venue was extremely accommodating and said that we could reschedule without losing our deposit if this happens. We're only paying $1400 total, for all day Friday to set up, and all day Saturday!

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Latest activity by Hanna, on October 29, 2022 at 7:47 PM
  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    To be honest, I would put the money you would use on transportation towards hosting an open bar.
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  • K
    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Kirsten ·
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    Good to know!
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  • Cece
    Master October 2023
    Cece ·
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    Absolutely Smiley smile While it’s a nice gesture to provide transportation, it’s not considered poor hosting if you don’t. However, asking your guests to open their wallets at your event is considered poor etiquette. I say put the money towards hosting the bar (even if it’s just beer and wine), and assume your guests are responsible enough adults to not overindulge if they are driving.
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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I agree with the other poster. Guests shouldn't be expected to pay for their own food or drinks. I think they would much rather have free drinks than transportation which they could easily figure out themselves.
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  • K
    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Kirsten ·
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    Thank you!!
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  • W
    Dedicated June 2022
    Whitney ·
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    Yeah, I would really reconsider having a cash bar. I think only serving beer and wine is absolutely acceptable, though. And if half the guests don't drink, you can consider that when factoring in how much alcohol to buy.

    I'm from the Midwest originally, and people definitely hire wedding shuttles where I'm from, but not charging for alcohol is more important than offering transportation.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes September 2023
    Kirsten ·
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    Thank you! Good to know.
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  • Michelle
    Champion December 2022
    Michelle ·
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    Guests are always responsible for their own transportation. While it has become popular to provide it for guests, it is an unnecessary expense on your part. Especially since the idea is foreign in your area and social circle. Use the money toward the bar so that guests don’t have to open their wallets.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    Echoing what everyone else said. Provide an open bar, do not provide transportation.

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