transferring invitations to unwanted guests

You just have to be honest. Tell them you are on a budget, and you planned for the people you invited.

If you're honest with them about the situation, then hopefully they'll be adults and get mad at the relatives who gave them the invite, not you.

I think you're going to have to address it head on, "I'm sorry, but these invitations are non-transferable." If you feel you have to go further, you can explain that you put a lot of thought into your guest list and your close friends and family who you weren't able to include would have hurt feelings.

Wtf, this isn't a concert ticket. Transferable? Hah?

I did try this approach..some took it better than others..but its the older generations who are throwing a fit about it. my family is crazy! lol

if i did have the room and money i would just bite the bullet.

idk why some people think that they can just turn our wedding into a big family reunion

@ pezzy lol.

Oh boy...that's just terrible! I'd be pissed. You need to call the people that "transferred" the invites and tell them that is not okay! They have to take it back!

Oh boy, haven't had anyone try this but have had them add on additional members that I didn't invite

I agree with Brittany, you need to have the people that transferred their invites be the ones to call them and tell them they were rude to send those people the invites in the first place. That is just ridiculous! And I thought I had heard all of the crazy family drama stories here on WW

Holy smokes, this is outrageous!! The nerve of some people. I'm shocked that people would do this. You have to tell these people that you're sorry, but the invitation was for the original guest and can't be transferred. Put your foot down.

Lol i know right...i cant even deal with it.,.90% of the wedding stress is because of the guests.

That's so rude!

Oh god I have seen folks who do this so irritating and those guest sadly normally don't even get you a card to congratulate you, I am not saying one greeds over a gift but these folks who don't know you never gift. It becomes a full charge that you just paid for. I was surprisingly annoyed when two guests who where my guests's second choice of a guest to bring didn't even congratulate me or gave me a card.

That's so rude and, seriously, WHO DOES THAT?!! Who would have thought you'd need to a add a "This invitation is non-transferable" note at the bottom of your invitation haha! If ppl are going to be that rude then you have every right to very bluntly tell them that the wedding invitation was not meant to be transferable and you have a very limited amount of space at the wedding.

I'd go ahead and cause a war. That's grade A stupid stuff, right there.

I agree with Pezzy WTF!?!? What is wrong with people?!?!?!?!

I only have my FMIL do this - since so and so isn't coming can I invite blah blah?

It was only okay in this situation! It is not okay in other situations! Plus the only reason it was okay there was because she asked first and I would have let her invite said person anyways, she just forgot to add them to the guest list originally.

Oh my...I have NEVER heard of anyone doing that before...wow...

OMG who does that? And who on the receiving end would be dumb enough to think that they could even accept it? If someone handed me a wedding invite I wouldn't even think of rsvp'ing. I would tell them sorry but no...

Update:

So i called up the original people who were invited and told them they need to contact these people they gave the invites too.

What pisses me off is that they are acting like its no big deal...i want to scream. And of course my mother thinks I'm being crazy and unreasonable...

Oh my goodness. seriously some people have no clue. hope you get it worked out with little stress

That is ridiculous. You contact the original guests and let them deal with it. Geez.....what the heck gets into people?