I feel like this is a weird question but I just realized I am doing this and am wondering if anyone else has struggled with finding a balance between having a traditional wedding, and putting your own personal spin on it.
I feel like im always drawn to sticking with traditional ideas, like I was set on having a white dress (wouldn’t even consider ivory or anything), couldn’t imagine not having silver shoes, have always dreamed of walking down the aisle to canon in D, etc. I do genuinely want all these things but I’m starting to feel like I’m making my wedding too “standard” and not personalizing it enough.
But then when it comes to making something more unique, I always feel like I should just stick to what’s traditional because this is the only wedding I’m going to get and I should take the opportunity to go all out with what is standard for weddings. For example, my FH and I are both huge Star Wars fans so we decided to have the throne room song be our recessional song at the ceremony which I was happy with, but then my mom suggested that instead of table numbers, we name our tables at the reception after planets from Star Wars. My FH LOVED this idea and I think it could be fun in theory but I’m so stuck on “no, it’s normal to just do numbers, we should do that.”
It's weird too because I always imagined myself having a beach wedding, in which case the setting would've been unique and personal for us, so I never really worried about the other details being personalized as much. Then we started thinking about a backyard wedding which still would've been unique, and then once we decided we wanted to do something indoors, we were originally going to get married in a museum which also would have been very unique! But when that ended up not working out, we are now just getting married in a hotel ballroom and idk, I feel like in losing the unique settings we kind of lost the only aspect that I was planning to be super unique. Now I'm just feeling like our wedding is going to be just like everyone else's, but I also can't really bring myself to break from the standard things.
Idk I guess I’m just struggling to allow myself to make the wedding “our own” because my mind is so stuck in what a wedding “should” look like. Does that make sense? Is anyone else feeling like this too?
