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Fran Minter
Beginner April 2020

Traditional invitations

Fran Minter, on September 4, 2019 at 10:37 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 18
So I'm wondering with today's new age are people still mailing out invites or have they transitioned to evites?

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Latest activity by Kayla, on September 4, 2019 at 11:09 PM
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    Master January 2015
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    I would stick to traditional invites. A lot of people have moved to digital RSVP's through wedding websites, but I would at least send physical invitations if not also a physical RSVP options. Unless you're having a very intimate ceremony, but that's just my opinion!

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  • Ivy ORP
    VIP October 2019
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    We sent out the traditional invites, my parents are not the most tech savvy people and I like the idea of someone having something in their hands. But we left our RSVPs to online only. It saved a bunch of money and made it so much easier to keep track.

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  • Annabel
    Dedicated November 2019
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    We sent out traditional invitations to family and friends that lived out of the area. The coworkers that we invited (and see everyday) we just sent out an evite.

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  • Cyndy
    Master May 2019
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    We sent out traditional invitations especially because we had some “older generation” guests.
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  • Sara
    Super October 2019
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    Agreed with PPs - I think physical invitations are very much still the norm, but online RSVPs are becoming pretty popular/standard. In addition to saving money on an extra card, envelope, and stamp, it's also far easier to track responses when it's all online.

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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
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    We did traditional invites, too! I personally think the physical invites are more personal

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I've never gotten an evite to a wedding, only paper invites.

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    We chose traditional invites. I think they feel more formal!
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    Dedicated March 2020
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    We are sending traditional invitations. We left out the RSVP cards because we knew most people wouldn't RSVP anyway.

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  • NextChapterReady
    Super October 2019
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    We mailed ours and loved our decision to do so! Smiley smile

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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
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    We are doing email Save the Dates on Paperlesspost but we are doing traditional invitations.
    I've received quite a few email save-the-dates but never the actual invite in e-form.
    you do you!

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  • Fran Minter
    Beginner April 2020
    Fran Minter ·
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    That's very interesting. Thank you for sharing that. I'm leaning against not sending out save the dates.....we are a little behind so I'm not trying to send out too many correspondence.
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  • Andrea
    Master January 2021
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    We're going to do traditional mailed invites, but rsvps will be online through our wedding website.

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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
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    We did traditional because we had a pretty formal wedding and evites would not have conveyed the formality. We did online RSVPs though.
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    Master 0000
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    The only way I would "transition" to electronic invitations, no paper, for any formal occasion, would be if we made a video clip of the occasion with us standing in the ceremony and reception places, instead of inviting the guest at all. Just watch the video. The invitation, and the wedding dress or formal gown and tux, and the traditional flowers could all be dispensed with. But for me, those symbols, including engraved invitations, are an important part of any wedding or function we would celebrate with a formal or semi-formal dinner or party or reception. Having an electronic blip is not the same feeling of anticipation as a formal printed invitation. My SIL made me laugh, said getting an evite was like a 2 second long sexual encounter. Getting a fast result with none of the pleasure before, or after. Not what memories are made of.
    I am always astounded that in the last 15 years, 1/3 to 1/2 of weddings have started to use paper ( or magnet type) mailed STD's. They never existed before. People always talked to others in person or on the phone, included the info in another card or letter, or since the mid 1990's email. This whole new kind of mailed stuff, totally unnecessary for most weddings where advance info can be given by phone, email, messaging, when advance notice is needed at all. And people are making or sending unnecessary proposal gifts, and cards, where previously they talked in person or by phone . And buying greeting cards for huge numbers of occasions people never sent them for, til recently. But the same people who send all this stuff to me, then want to do an evite for the invitation? It saves paper. And time. And expense. The paper, time, and expense you wasted sending STD's, printing 20 dress pictures to share or take dress shopping, sending proposal cards and gifts?
    I don't get it. It you want to save, eliminate all the stuff that want never necessary before and everyone has started. But the formal invitation is like the actual marriage certificate, or diploma, I really look forward to seeing it receiving printed invitations. You don't have to put a stamp on your RSVP envelope. Give people a choice of text, email, or phone reply as well as mail. But send me the invitation, please.
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  • Nicole
    Super October 2021
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    We're still mailing out formal invites, but our rsvp will be online. So a slight break to tradition Smiley smile

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  • Kori & Daniel
    Dedicated September 2020
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    We are sending out save-the-dates since we have over a year till our wedding. Then we plan on sending Invitations in the mail stating they can mail us back the RSVP or go to our WeddingWire Website to RSVP.

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  • Kayla
    Dedicated April 2021
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    We are sending out traditional invites!

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