Traditional and Own Vows

We're writing our own vows and saying them during the ceremony. I've just always liked personal ones better than the traditional ones everyone else says.

Are you doing a first look? You could always exchange the personal vows during then, and do the traditional recited ones during the ceremony! That's what my FBIL and his wife did!

We did some repeated and some personal. Our state required certain things to be said in a specific way.

I wrote my own! i don't think it would be weird to do both. especially cause you could even modify the traditional back and forth vows to what suits you

We couldn’t agree on which type of vows we wanted to do either, so we did both, but in a different way. We wrote our own vows, but said them “repeat after me” style. It was nice to not have the nerves involved with reading your own vows, but to also have something that was customized to what’s important to us and our marriage.

We both wanted the traditional vows for many reasons. But I don't think it would be weird to do both. Just talk to your officiant and figure out how to do it in a way that it's not repetitive and flows well.

Some people exchange personal vows in a card or during pre ceremony photos. Your officiant will have legal wording that you must say as required by the state. Beyond that, it's personal preference

We are doing both exactly as you said. I couldn't decide either and this way you just end up with the best of both worlds.

We are doing personal vows, but I knew someone who wanted the personal vows to only be for her and her husband, so they did them before. They didn't do a first look, so they did this by each standing on one side of the corner of a building and they held hands while they read them to each other. The photos came out REALLY cute because it was such a special moment between them. You could always do something like that and have the traditional at the ceremony.

For our wedding, we wrote our own vows. However, the state we got married in required us to also say the traditional vows in order for the marriage to be legally binding so we said both. I don't think it seemed odd or anything.

I don't think it's weird to do both at all, and I've seen it done many times. Our state actually requires the traditional vows to be read for the marriage to be legally binding, so every wedding I've been to or worked at that had personal vows also had the traditional vows. Personally, I'd like us to write our own vows. I don't have a problem saying the traditional ones, but they just really don't quite convey the actual promise I'm making to FH.

I don't think it's weird to do both! I think it's a great idea. My fiance and I will be exchanging the traditional vows during the ceremony and writing our own to read to each other during our first look.

I honestly thought if you did both you exchange the personal vows and then the traditional. I think doing both was always a nice thing to watch.

YOU can do both or as a shorter compromise, a mix: you take some lines from the traditional ones , remove some that you replace with your own lines.