Tracking Down RSVPs - How?

Make someone else do it. If you call, people WILL feel badly if it's a no, and avoid telling you.

Have a sibling call family/close friends, FILs to call their family, and I just contacted friends.

"Getting RSVPs together! Will you be able to join?"

I just said-Are you going to be able to make it to our wedding? I have to give a final count by such and such date.

I did this via email and facebook message:

Hey there,

Just wanted to follow up really quickly and see if you were planning on attending our wedding next month. Please let me know when you can.

Thanks!

Lara

"Hey- Are you coming to the wedding? I need to know for my final headcount." That's all I've had to say so far. I feel your pain.

We gave it a couple of days and got a handful within those two days after the RSVP date. Once we had to track people down (like 40 people... ugh) I just sent them texts saying something along the lines of "Hey! We're just following up to make sure you got your invite and your RSVP is in the mail. We know of a couple RSVPs that got lost in the mail, so we're just checking. We hope you can make it!"

After a week or two of this FH was more like, "Hey we never got your RSVP and we really need it right now otherwise we'll count you as a 'No'".

"Hey x! Hope you are doing well! Did you receive our invitation? Are you joining us on (date) for the wedding? We hope you can make it but if not, we understand. Our final numbers are due this week. Love/Thanks/Regards x"

Hi date twin (first one I've seen!)

Since there was such a monstrous number of people that did not respond, I am only contacting my family members (or having my parents do it). As far as people that FH invited that I had never even met, I ...don't care. I sent you the invite, I informed you the dinner was plated, and I clearly wrote "please respond by August 31st." You're obviously not coming since I don't even know you.

I also posted on Facebook a semi-joking humorous status about "if you forget to RSVP and still show up, you're going to be hungry!" Several people RSVP'd after that.

I had my mom contact family members on her side, all my dad's family RSVPed. I had FH contact his family and his friends. I contacted my friends and our mutual friends. I just said something along the lines of, Hey there! I am just rounding up RSVPs and was wondering if you are going to be able to make it to our wedding? I need to get our final head count for the venue. Most people gave up an answer pretty quickly (though in my experience, if they haven't sent in an RSVP yet, they are most likely a no). It sucks, and we still have a few that haven't responded to us reaching out to them yet, so I am really not looking forward to either a voicemail or test telling them that we have to assume they are a no. But it has to be done. Try to get it over with quickly like a band-aid. RSVPs have been the thing I have hated most about wedding planning.

I am definitely letting FH and FMIL handle his family. No way am I awkwardly calling people I've never met.

I had hoped for a last week before the deadline swell of responses...nope. I've had like 5 in the last week. The ones that really get to me are my friends from college. I see you on Facebook daily, and the RSVP is online. Take 2 min and pop over to my website!

My mom will call her family (just some of her cousins need to RSVP) and my FH is getting his people in line. I am too busy to worry about it!

I texted people as our wedding is small and so everyone was close (and I knew they would be ok with a text) but most of the were on FHs side and I really didn't feel comfortable calling (he never would have gotten around to it). It really saved me time and I also felt like I wasn't putting people on the spot as much. I was also afraid that if people only confirmed on the phone and never really RSVP'd they might just say yes and then not show up.

I wrote: Hi there, this is Reggie. Just reaching out because we haven't gotten your RSVP yet and we need to get our final numbers to the caterer. If you could go the the website (WEBSITE ADDRESS) and get that to us ASAP that would be great.

I pretty much copied and pasted that into a text to each of the people we hadn't heard from (I would not advise a group text both because they are just awful in general and because then it might put people on the spot).

I've been doing texts and phone calls (depending on how I normally communicate with those guests) and just saying, "Hey I need to get a final head count for catering. Are you planning to attend our wedding?" Everyone has been very gracious about it so far.

I plan on using every available resource...text, emails, Facebook, etc.

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Ugh. I feel your pain. I had to do this today for a (wait for it....) bridesmaid! I asked her when I saw her over the summer. She lives across the country, so didn't want to pressure her into coming. When she told me she was coming to the wedding last month I pulled her aside and explained that I couldn't imagine her being there and not standing beside me. She told me she would need till the end of August to see if she could really pull it off (lining up babysitters, paying for airfare.) So I texted her today and said "Hey, Honey, checking in to see if you will be able to come in for the wedding. I wanted to give you till September since you said you would know by the end of the month. FH and I would love for you to join us. Trying to wrap up some last minute details. Thanks in advance for letting us know." Tried to stay light and positive, but her RSVP is already a whole month late and I am putting together BM gifts and bouquets and really need to know a true number - plus dinner. As of now - no answer yet. Oy. Good luck!

Just that you need to have hard # for food and for needing to make final payment

arrangements on the overall wedding. My FH has to do this with his friends' it's been

making me batty, since my guests are all locked in.