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Just Said Yes November 2021

Toxic sister turns possible crasher

Brooke, on January 30, 2020 at 6:26 AM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5
Hey guys!
I’m working on my guest list and have stumbled into an issue that I can’t solve without feedback. My half sister is Practically disowned by only me. I have tried to reason with her and she doesn’t ever stop trying to sabotage any family events that she is specifically not invited to but hears about it from my grandma. She listens in on phone calls and lives there so I know for a fact she will know all the information for my wedding.
No one is willing to stand up to her even though they agree, the way she treats me is ridiculous but they won’t do anything about it because my grandma has made it very clear that she expects my sister to be invited. I haven’t sat down with my grandma yet but, I’m pretty sure she won’t respect that I don’t want my toxic sister on a day that is supposed to be relaxing for me. Not inviting my grandma all together isn’t an option. So... should I hire a security officer to attend the event in case something does happen? Or maybe just have one of my friends stand at the door to turn her away. It sucks really bad that I have to worry about this stuff but I want one day where I can not have her there since we’re paying for it. My grandparents also would stay if my sister was turned away but they will make sure she knows when it is and where. I don’t know what my best move here without jeopardizing my relationship with my grandparents that she’s depending on.

5 Comments

Latest activity by Jennifer, on January 30, 2020 at 3:34 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    Yes, you should hire security. You should let your friends enjoy your reception with you, don't put them to work. You also have a very long time before your wedding, so I would wait until January of 2021 to see how things change before signing a contract with a security company.

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  • Jennifer
    Master September 2018
    Jennifer ·
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    Hire security and don't throw anymore energy into worrying about her crashing.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    We hired security for our wedding. My sister in law was invited (and a bridesmaid) but she is a dangerous alcoholic so we didn't know how the day would turn out. She ended up being totally fine and it wasn't an issue, but we were very happy to have security to handle anything discretely and not stress out family. They did cut her off at the bar but that wasn't a big deal and they handled it super well.

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  • Rachel
    Savvy October 2021
    Rachel ·
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    I would definitely hire security. But I like the suggestion to wait a while before making the final decision about what to do with her.
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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    You should 100% hire security!

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