Toxic In-Laws

Thanks laura great adivce!! Ill try anything

How do you define toxic?

The book goes into a long, clear explanation and even a check list to see if yours fit into the "toxic" category. But basically the book is for couples dealing with the resentment, frustration, anger, guilt, and hopelessness that the relationship with the in-laws creates. "Toxic" in-laws have an erosive and poisonous effect. They are more than just "annoying" or difficult. They assault one or both of you and your marriage constantly and purposely....too long to fit it all in here! lol

I might have to buy this book and read it, i went on barns and noble.com and read the preview chapters. i definately need some insight with my troublesome soon to be in laws.

Thanks sooooo much for letting us know about this book Im going to buy it for sure!

My Soon to be In Laws aren't toxic YET, but I'll definately check the book out to make sure I know how to see the SIGNS.... I wish I would have seen this POST I just came home from Barnes and Nobles LMAO!!!!

Lol I usually pick up books like this at the library first, can't beat FREE. We started out with "toxic parents" also by Susan Forward and it's helped my husband so much. But this book focuses more on how these kinds of relatives can impact your marriage and what I can do to help the situation as his spouse. It's really great for building a team plan to keep it from hurting your relationship. Good stuff!!

The only problem here is trying to get your fiance' or husband to read it.

My future in-laws never even met me and never will. They resent the fact that my FH is getting married a 2nd time and they are control freaks. They laid it on the line and basically said to their son it is me or them. At first, he chose his family which was the right thing and I never interfered...this was before we were engaged. We were separated for a couple weeks until he finally opened his eyes and started looking at things differently. He explained to his parents (his mother wears the pants and what she says, goes, and his dad just follows along) he was unhappy and his life decisions should be his and his alone. They told him that if he chose to go back with me, to never come back to the house and if he sees them on the street to just keep walking by. I feel bad for my FH but you cannot control other peoples actions..IT IS WHAT IT IS.

I'm sorry for anyone who has to deal with that. I am thankful that I haven't had to. There are annoying opinions and perspectives from time to time but I am pretty pleased with FH's family and I feel blessed to have a good relationship w/ his family. My prayers to all of you who have to deal with any thorns in your relationship. As if relationships aren't hard enough!

Amy there is a whole chapter dedicated to exactly the situation you're describing! The great thing about this book is it gives YOU the right ways to approach your partner on the subject to get him to see it more clearly and understand your side of things. So he doesn't need to read it, you will benefit greatly by reading it yourself!

Thanks Libragurl. It's really a sad sad situation that we wish with all our hearts could be different.