Toxic Immediate Family

You reserve the right to not invite anyone you don't want at your wedding.....as long as you are prepared to not carry on a close relationship with these people moving forward.

Exactly, I don't want to seem like I am trying to tear them apart. But, I can't watch them hurt him anymore.

I agree with PPs. These family members are extremely toxic just like you said! You've already given them multiple chances, so now I think cutting them off is the best thing for you and FH!

I agree with this, but I also believe this should be mostly your FH's decision, as it's his brother and it probably holds more meaning to him on whether he continues to carry on this relationship or not. If he does choose to invite them, I would just be cordial and short.

One of my aunts is a horrible person and I never want to see her again and she is most certainly not coming to our wedding. I am all for cutting ties with people who hold you back and cause you nothing but pain.

I wouldn't invite them. Just because people are family doesn't mean we have to have them in our lives if they are toxic

I completely RELATE to this. Be kind. Be firm of who you are and how you want your day to be. If you want, tell them you expect them to do nothing except enjoy the day and sit and be still and if they cant do that then don't come. If they attend and make a fool of themselves then both families will know they did so. Cut all ties after your wedding day.

Exactly, I have built my family. they are not blood-related

The thing is, they are completely equipped to behave in public settings but, do we want people there that have caused either one of us pain just because they are "FAMILY". We would be essentially paying for people to come to enjoy our day but not really support our well-being.

It is 97% his choice whether they are there or not. But his decisions is to cut all ties, but I know the family will ask questions if they aren't there. I really just want to support him and what's best for our new life and family.

Well at least they can behave!! I understand that. Do what you want. I think the family would understand why they aren't there is they know them or know whats been going on! I get supporting your new family, but you can do that on a very monotone level. Have people who you love there. And if its 2 plates your paying extra and you end up having them there, so be it. It's their choice for how they want to treat you. You need to do whats best for yourself and your health!!!

This! I would do the same