Touring wedding venues by myself

Get a list and take pictures maybe but why not take the kids with you, I dont think that they would be that much of a distraction, you really need to tour together because you may each see something that the other wont. Is there a girlfriend or mother that you can take with you??

If you go alone I would just take lots of pictures and bring a notebook to write down notes on the information they give you so that you can show your FH everything when you get home. I personally think going alone isn't a big deal. If he likes it, you can go back and look at it again together.

We brought my daughter with us to every vendor meeting, including the venue tour, because we weren’t going to be able to afford to get a sitter for everything that needed to happen but we both wanted to be present for all of it. She was totally fine every time. I would go together and bring the kids with you. If the kids get restless, one of you can take them out of the room for a minute to calm them down.

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I heard that it's a big 'no no' to bring kids with you to tour wedding venues. If it's not then I would consider bringing them.

Can you bring your mom,a friend, etc?

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I wish I could. My mom and sister live 7 hours away and I don't have any friends that can make it.

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Does your FH parents live by?

View Quoted Comment A no-no for whom? True, only an adult can inspect the kitchen if food preparation is going on. And 6 kids, might be tough paying attention. But my cousin and I toured places because she was planning her wedding, and I was planning for a cousin out of the country for 15 months. We brought my 2 nearly 4 year olds and her 5 year old, and they behaved. Aside from offering them a cookie, no one commented on them at all until the end, when some commented to us, and some to them, they they were good as gold, or well behaved, and welcome. I would not bring someone going through tantrum at will stuff, or for more than a couple of places in a morning or afternoon. Not particularly efficient, as you might do 6 in a day without kids. But no big deal if kids are used to going through stores and parks with mom and dad, and behave.

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They are 2 hours away and I honestly would prefer not to go with them. Long story.

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A couple of friends who have gotten married told me that the venue managers told them to not bring kids on the tour unless absolutely necessary. I was also on Reddit and venue managers and wedding coordinators said they absolutely hated it when people brought their kids along.

O no,you should mention that you may need to bring your children and see how they respond otherwise video the whole day

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Oh I was just saying for them to watch the kids and you and FH go together.

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Oh that would make sense too but they live a little too far for that.

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I think I'm going to call the venue managers and let them know that our kids will be present so that they can be mentally prepared for that. Thank you

Yes because what if you have kids at the wedding

You know your kids best. If you think they can behave for the tour, most likely 30-60 minutes, I would say take them. Maybe bring a book or iPad to keep them occupied and some snacks so that you both can make a decision together. Also, maybe beforehand let them know that we need to be on our best behavior for this tour and if they behave there will be a reward or something after, ice cream or a new book from the bookstore, something small.

Take a lot of pictures or video the tour, and bring a notebook to write down all the answers to your questions!

I've done it alone. Wasn't a big deal. Our schedules don't align as often as I'd like or it wouldn't be possible for both of us to make it because they only do tours on certain days etc. I sat down and after taking the tour asked for the info packet to take home. Took pictures. If I thought the venue was a really good option then I would make a follow-up meeting with my partner.

I toured our venue without my FH, but instead with a married friend. It was great to get a point of view from someone who already planned a wedding.

Hey there! I’d love to know how your venue tours went! Were there any that you loved? How did you find visiting them on your own?