Touchy Subject - Asking For Sizes

You could just ask for measurements! then pick their sizes from that - to me, that would feel less sensitive. Also, make sure to either message them separately, or tell them to feel free to send them privately if they prefer if you send it to a group chat, so they don't feel they have to tell their size in a group message.

That's very thoughtful, but have you considered getting then something different?


I don't wear pajamas, and I rarely wear pants.
Maybe a personalized throw?

View Quoted Comment It’s just for getting ready pics. I thought they’d be better than robes lol. I’m already getting each of them something personal.

I'd just text them all individually and ask what size they are!

I would just ask them but I would do it individually and not as a group or anything like that in case some people feel very sensitive about it.

What I was planning on doing was sending the size chart for anything I was going to order to each one individually so they could make sure it was the best size for them and not have to guess but also not share that information with the group if they don't want to. We're a pretty small and close knit group so I don't imagine it would be too big of a problem, but just in case!

I texted mine individually and asked them, but I worded it very casual, “hey when you get the chance send me your shirt and shoe size as well as if you have/ don’t have pierced ears” and then just made a list. If they are your closest friends they shouldn’t be offended by you asking!

Because sizing can vary so much, when you reach out to them individually you might want to include the size chart for the items you're considering and ask them to tell you what size they'd prefer you order for them.... That gives them more info and control -- some people like things to be more loose others prefer a closer fit.

Agreed with others that including a size chart or getting measurements is probably a better bet than asking for numeric or letter sizes, just because it can vary so much from brand to brand. If you aren't trying to surprise your girls (it sounds like you have already gotten them a different gift) I think it would be best to just share with them a link to the item(s) you are planning to buy or pictures and a size chart and ask what size they prefer. I know in order for me to choose the best size for clothing I haven't had the opportunity to try on I like to consider the cut of the product, material/fabric, and consult reviews and the size chart before ordering. This is especially true when letter sizing is used, as I find numerical sizing tends to me more consistent and used for more tailored items, whereas letter sizing can be all over the place (I am pretty consistently between a small and medium but I own and wear items that vary from XS-L).

Also, for what its worth, I ask student athletes for clothing sizes regularly to order them custom team apparel, and have asked my mom/friends sizes for things, and generally people have been pretty willing to share that info if they know they are getting goodies out of it!

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It just dawned unto me that a lot of my ladies are either going to be pregnant, planning to be pregnant, or would have just delivered a baby so they can't even really tell me what size they would be. It was the whole reason why I went with infinity dresses, too. I may get these last minute and sending them the size chart.

View Quoted Comment Sending them the sizing chart is SUCH a great idea! Them knowing the product and the measurements will help them select what they think they’d feel comfortable in for that specific thing. Idk why but I’d feel less sensitive looking at that and saying “I think I’d like this in a large!” than just saying “large for everything always”

View Quoted Comment I agree with PP. Before you move forward with this idea, you NEED to make sure your bridesmaids are comfortable with this idea. I would hate being photographed in PJs and I’d be extremely uncomfortable. Most of the styles people choose for these pictures would make me very self conscious and feel like a stuffed sausage roll. The whole pictures in matching PJs thing is a fad. Just something to consider.

View Quoted Comment Just asked them! They’re cool with it

I asked mine individually, and I just asked “What size pajamas would you like?” Because I know some people enjoy oversized comfy clothes. No one was offended, and they all loved their pajamas!

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You should just send them the link to the pajamas you want them to get and tell them to order it themselves and you'll Venmo/send them cash, etc... to reimburse them. That way they can choose their own size and try on at home and feel free to exchange beforehand if necessary.