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Susan
Devoted October 2021

Totally Disheartened by Covid Delays

Susan, on September 7, 2020 at 8:54 AM Posted in Planning 0 5

Hi All!

Covid bride here... Our wedding was scheduled for May 25, 2020, but had to be canceled because NYS was in a shutdown. We postponed with less than 60 days to go and rescheduled for October 11, 2020.

We had to cancel again with 60 days to go. My fiance attends a local college and they gave them choice between having our wedding and going to school out of concern for fellow students' well being, even though NY has loosened wedding restrictions and we could have gone ahead with it otherwise.

So, now we're back another 400+ days, rescheduled for October 10, 2021. All our vendors have been AWESOME through all these changes, and worked with us to make a date that worked for everyone. The sole exception is that the wedding coordinator we loved at our venue quit, so we had to find a new one, but even that worked out fine. Our wedding party has stuck by us, everything has been great.

But I'm just not feeling it any more. The wind is out of my sails. We got so close two times, and it almost seems like it's not supposed to happen. I was widowed once before, and I try not to be superstitious but it feels like I'm not meant to be happy. Plus with the planning done and everything moved, I don't need to worry about anything--just sit around and wait another 13 months. We've mixed it up some, revamping our original vision, so we'll have a smaller wedding but much nicer for our guests. But even that isn't getting me excited.

I know the point is us getting married. But in fact, we eloped almost a year ago, so this really is just planning a party with a little commitment ceremony ahead of time.

Just needed to blow off steam! Any other Covid brides feeling the same?

Thanks!

5 Comments

Latest activity by Shirley, on September 8, 2020 at 7:25 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    I am going through a similar scenario, and I know so many people on these forums are also dealing with the same thing. My fiance and I postponed from July 2020 to July 2022, and since 90% of our wedding is already planned, so we're just hanging out waiting for 2022. We opted to not do a minimony, but many people are choosing to do one, which I think is awesome!


    It's totally normal to feel disappointed - it's frustrating to have plans uprooted and delayed and forced to be different from the original plan. You are meant to be happy, and your wedding celebration will be beautiful! I truly believe that as time gets closer, the excitement will return. I suggest taking some time and celebrating you and your fiance with date nights or a weekend away or a movie night!
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    I think that as the date gets closer you will be happy about it again. I know that Covid has ruined about of things for us Covid brides. Just try to hang in there!
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  • Lindsay
    Devoted July 2021
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    I feel the same way! I ended up getting married on my original date this year and had a micro wedding don’t get me wrong it was nice but I was so sad I didn’t get to wear my dress and that I had to cut my guest list to 30 people and everyone else on zoom. We moved our party to next year as well and I’m also in NY and I’m just sitting around waiting as well to know what restrictions will be again come next July and will I even be able to have all my guest’s or the party I want. All I feel is worry and stress and barely any excitement because let’s be real how can you be excited with all this uncertainty. So your not alone at all and your feelings are valid COVID has taken away a lot from us brides all we can do is hope and pray that things get better for us as we deserve the days we’ve planned! Hang in there!💙
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I'm so sorry Susan! It's totally fair to be disappointed by need to postpone again, and now that you've got all of your vendors locked down for your new date I'd just take a break form planning!!

    Take some time away from the wedding stress and come back once you're starting to get excited again! ❤️

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  • Shirley
    Expert November 2020
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    Girl, I feel you. You said it perfectly: the wind is out of my sails now. I am just so tired of being disappointed and having to grieve my lost wedding and start again. I don't know if I will be able to be excited again, but I sure am not now. My family is trying to hard to be supportive and going above and beyond for me to raise my spirits, but I am just down in the dumps about it. Honestly, I've developed a lot of anxiety around planning after having so many plans fall through, and I wish I could just fast forward my life until the minimony and the wedding celebration were over and done with.

    So I don't really have any good advice for you, just wanted you to know that you are not alone.

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