Too old to be a ring bearer?

I think he is to old to be a ringbearer but I think you should make him a usher

Kids love having responsibility an during the ceremony it could be his job to make sure each side of the family sit on the proper side or if your not doing it that way then its his job to make sure the immediate family is up front an its his job to make sure everyone knows no cell phones out during the ceremony

Nope, he's not too old at all. As long as he's happy to do it, then let him. My flower girls are 8 and 10 are so excited to be a part of our day.

Please don't make him police your guests during your ceremony...

Ring bearers end at 6. What you have are junior groomsmen.

He could be the ring bearer's bearer. lol. But I think it would be cute. They may be too young to make it down the aisle. So why not have the 3yo and 1 yo hold the pillow(s) and your brother hold their hands? IMO it is better than having one of their parents calling them from the front. And it would be cute.

12 is definitely WAY too old to be a ring bearer of any sort - my FH's nephew is 9 and when we asked him to be in the wedding he said he didn't want to, because he didn't want the "baby's job" - when we told him he would have the responsibility of seating his grandparents (FH's parents) and my mom, he was all excited

Definitely give him some responsibility

My son was 12 when my sister got married. He did a short reading during the ceremony.

My 13 year old daughter asked to be my ring bearer so that's who I'm using. My son will be a groomsman so of course I want my daughter to be included. Your wedding so do what you feel is best. Times and family dynamics have changed so some traditions are outdated in my opinion

My nephew will be 9 when I get married and he will be my ring bearer.

My 15-year-old nephew was an usher. I had him escort my grandmother down the aisle.

If a kid is excited about the role, they're not too old for it. Our FG was 9. Personally, I think of Jr BMs and Jr GM as more of a young teenager thing, but I think the number one concern needs to be what the kid you want to honor feels comfortable doing. Had my 9 year old cousin said she thought she was too old to be a FG, I would have asked her if she was interested in being my Jr BM because I wanted to honor my relationship with her.

I think you should ask your brother how he feels about being a RB or being a Jr GM and leave the decision up to him. And if he chooses Jr GM, don't worry about sides being even. No one notices that. Maybe you can give him the added responsibility of escorting your mom down the aisle. My brother (he's an adult) was a GM in our wedding and we asked him to also escort our mom to her seat. He ended up returning to where the GM were waiting and processed in with them again, but you could easily have your brother wait up front for the rest of the GM to join him after he's seated your mom.

Let him do whatever he's comfortable with. My daughter wanted to be my flower girl. She will be 10 when we get married.

I don't think so, we originally planned for my FH's little cousin (3 yrs old) to be our RB, but my FH's little brother who is 12, really wanted to be our RB. I really couldn't say no, so he'll be our RB and FH's little cousin will just hold a cute sign as he walks down.

I've started singing at weddings 15 years ago. Many churches have a minimum age to participate, some 6 and up, for a very good reason.

My sister's ring bearer was 10, so he was actually able to carry the rings securely. His behavior was impeccable. Although most of the weddings we've attended are adult only, some of those that have had very young children participate have had behavior far less than that.

I wouldn't let my toddler participate, in a wedding, for many years. She's a total goofball now and a wedding is a serious event, not a comedy show.

FH son is 14 and will be carrying our rings and presenting them to the officiant when it's time. He will not be carrying a pillow or anything cutesy. I don't think he's too old.

My future step daughter is going to be 13 and she will be my MOH/ring bearer

There is no age limit on ring bearers. As a matter of fact, the older the better. While younger kids are cute and all they will have no memory of this experience. Your brother will forever remember being bestowed with the honor of serving as your ring bearer. He can appreciate how much this means to you and thus how much he means to you. Go for it. Best wishes!

Thanks everyone! I will ask him and let him choose between being a junior groomsman or a ring bearer but I think he will definitely choose to walk with my nephews. I do think it would be very cute to have him hold their hands!

Also I'm having both my mom and my dad walk me down the aisle which is a little different so the 12 year old ring bearer probably wouldn't be too shocking anyway lol.

Walking down the aisle with both parents has been the norm in our family/social circle (and it has nothing to do with ethnicity or religion), for at least the last generation. We rarely see just the father/male family member, anymore.