too old for flowergirl, too young for jr bridesmaid

Is 9 too young? I hope not! My fiance's youngest daughter is 9 (soon 10) and I would like both of his girls as bride's maids. Is it too young?

I thought i read that somewhere. Maybe it's not.

Too old for a flowergirl but just fine for Jr. BM. It is my understanding that the term Jr. BM was "invented" to cover the in-between years - too old for FG and too young for BM.

Cool, good to know.

I think my "flower girl" is 12. I have no need for a Jr Bridesmaid so her official title is: "Sr Flower Maid". Its my cross between an older flower girl with a younger Jr Maid.

I don't think 9 is too young. I have my FH's sister as my flower girl she is 9 and very excited to be the flower girl.

I am right there with you. My FH's sister will be 9 and I am torn between asking her to be a Jr. bridesmaid or a flowergirl. what do ya'll think about asking her what she wants to be?

My daughter is 8 and I have her as a Jr. Bridesmaid. She is so excited to stand with "the big girls" lol!

I'm asking my 10 year old cousin to be a BM. i figure at that age I'd rather be with older girls and feel really important than be something that younger children usually are. Think about it, being asked to be a BM when you're only 9 or 10 would be pretty much the most amazing thing ever!

I'm having my niece she will be turning 9 right after my wedding but she is tiny for her age and my ring bearer is 3 and he is pretty tall so I don't think it's too old at all!

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Young boys (or girls) aged six through nine who carry the bride's extra-long train (think of Lady Di's wedding) as she walks down the aisle. Also known as "train bearers."

How long is your train?

I remember reading about the guidelines for flowergirls. And 8 is the max age. But then, it's your wedding, and so many people are doing it their way. My flowergirl just turned 8 in Feb. And I'm getting married in May. She is big for a flowergirl, but I would rather have her as the flowergirl than the junior bridesmaid. But do as you please :o)

Now adays alot of rules are being broken. For example-now it's the bride and groom themselves who pay for the wedding. It's your wedding-do what you want and the hell with the rules!

My daughter is 9 (will be 10 later this month) and when we got engaged, she asked me, "Do I have to be a flower girl?" (Imagine disgusted tone of voice.) She was so relieved that she could be a jr. bridesmaid instead of a flower girl! For whatever reason, she saw "flower girl" as being a very immature, babyish role. Besides, her brothers will be "groomsmen" (at 13 and 16 yrs old) so she wanted a grown up position too.

Your niece is perfect for a jr. bridesmaid! I'm sure she'll feel honored with the role.

9 isn't too old but if she is almost as tall as you, depending on how tall you are then you might want to go with making her a Jr bridesmaid. I am having the same problem. I always wanted my cousin to be my flowergirl. She's 9 now and she is about 5'1"-5'2" so that's out. i still wanted to include her so she is my sole jr bridesmaid.

My fiancé's niece is 7, and very mature for her age. She's also been the flower girl in all 3 of her aunt's weddings. Her mom also just found out she was having a little girl (surprise!). I told my niece that she would the Flower Maid and her little sister is the flower girl. She's going to pull her little sister down the aisle in a wagon to her grandma, and then she'll join her mom and aunts (who are bridesmaids) on stage. We're also doing a mini "spa day" with her mom and aunts and calling it a bachelorette party so she feels special. My real bachelorette party will be adult only, but that way she feels special, gets to have a special role, and it's different than just being a flower girl, because she's still a little young to be a junior bridesmaid.