Too Much Pressure

I am a 21 year old college student who is lucky enough to be marrying my best friend this June. As you could imagine, being a college student I don’t have an exorbitant amount of cash to put into my fiancé’s and my special day. The venue we have chosen is my mom’s 5 acre property in the middle of BFE. Our wedding is being catered by none other than Pizza Hut. The cake will be of white from Costco, and my wedding dress cost me a whopping $170. I’m not going to lie, even being on a limited budget I have been obsessing over every little detail, daydreaming about my fairy princesses woodland wedding. When I say obsessed I mean obsessed! I have thus far planed every detail 50 times over.
Then today my wonderful man said something to me that really struck a nerve which was calling it MY wedding...as my wedding not his. It stung, I started crying In the middle of date night making our waiter feel quite uncomfortable btw. But I realized he was right. I wasn’t prematurely turning my hair grey over this wedding for him and to be honest it wasn’t really for me either. I have been so wrapped up in all the wedding YouTube videos and Pinterest boards that I felt that having a flawless wedding is what is expected and if the couple falls short then all their guests will shun and trash talk them forever. But you know what? Everyone on our guest list is someone we love dearly. So, so what if we aren’t starting our married lives going into debt on top of our student loans for a perfect wedding. We will be celebrating one of the best days of our lives with the people we love most. If my guests think my wedding is trashy because over 50% of my decorations are from the dollar store then they can eat their free pizza and keep it to themselves. My flowers may be fake but love between my soon-to-be husband surely is not. And I know that when I walk down the isle and my father hands me off everything in the world will be perfect. So I have decided that instead of spending our entire savings on a single day I am going to invest 2/3rds of that money into starting Roth IRA for each of us, so we can truly invest in our future.