Too much or not enough?

If you and your fiancé are paying for the wedding (or the majority) : buy these items and let other people talk all they want. If the 2 of you are happy with what you're planning, other opinions don't matter at all.
If your family paying for everything or the majority: you should compromise: you should still be able to buy the 1-2-3 most important (to you) things you have strong feelings about... but you shouldn't buy those that "are less important" to you. Then, express your feelings about what you wanna buy . People can easily argue with logic but can't argue with emotions.
For instance, saying "they would make me happy"," I fell in love with these as soon as I saw them", or " it fits my vision of the ideal wedding" are better explanations than " I think they are necessary", "they look great" or "I think I should splurge on things as much as I can since a wedding is a special occasion" and your family will be more understanding in my opinion.

It depends what you’ve been buying. If it’s decor, make sure you have a thorough layout and plan before buying otherwise you will be left with unnecessary “stuff”. Plan, make a list and then buy.

I think you should do whatever makes you happy, but keep in mind that most people don’t care about all of those other things. They care most about good food and drinks and great music on that day. That’s what guests enjoy.

View Quoted Comment I agree, guests definitely don’t pay attention to the decor the way you will. That being said, I know a lot of us brides have a specific vision for our big day, and there is nothing wrong with trying to execute that! If continuing to buy things for your wedding is within your budget and does not take away from other big impact items (ie, food, open bar, photography, videography, DJ, etc etc…) then I don’t see any reason you shouldn’t continue to purchase what you want

No one can actually answer this without knowing what you are buying. It is definitely easy to overbuy though, so it’s best to have a specific plan and follow it, instead of buying a bunch of stuff every time you have an idea. There’s really not all that much you need though, so if you feel like you might be overbuying, it’s likely that you are. The best approach is to list out everything that you need (versus just buying anything that you like) and check it off when you have it, and keep it organized by what it is for, and if you keep receipts with it, if you have a change of heart, hopefully you can do returns.


I will also caution you to reach out to all your vendors before going overboard with purchases, as they may have a lot of usable supplies. I was shopping around for printing menu cards and buying table numbers but in a conversation with my caterer, learned that they’re happy to do all that stuff for me— sure if you want a very specific look they might not be able to provide , but, definitely worth tapping into your resources first.

As your wedding is next month, I would try to stop with decor and fine tune operational details or focus on your partner. Just remember, every decoration you will bring in, must be set up (by whom?), and then taken away at the end of the night (by whom, how, and to where?). With many smaller things, there is more potential to get wrong, lost. Your aim for elegance might end up looking like a store. It's very easy to feel that more must be added or done, but Pinterest and Etsy are for people selling goods and services. Your vision will be wonderful. Just try to revisit your plan and be intentional with your gathering.

It depends on a lot of factors such as how much as it costed and what your budget is for it, if you can reuse it beyond the wedding, if it is important for your vision of the wedding