Too much cleavage?

I actually think this is a really beautiful dress. Are you getting married in a church and concerned about modesty rules? If not, I don’t think this dress is worth telling her she can’t wear it.

View Quoted Comment We're getting married at our venue, but when we discussed wedding attire I made it clear (or thought I had) that I didn't want certain attributes showing since I wanted things more modest. For example, my dress has long sleeves and a higher neckline. She said she understood and wouldn't choose something like that, but this dress has too low of a neckline to me.

I don't feel like that's an inappropriately low neckline, but if you don't like it, then mention you'd like to see her in something a little more modest - and perhaps send some suggestions.

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I personally think it's fine, I was expecting something much lower and think it looks like a flattering shape. That said, it's your wedding and if you think it's too low - communicate - BEFORE she buys it.

View Quoted Comment I would just tell her exactly that. Maybe in her opinion this is a more modest dress and she isn’t understanding fully what you envisioned.

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It’s a beautiful dress but if she’s top heavy I’d ask her to use a pin so she doesn’t fall out of the dress.

As someone with a heavy set bust, it can be really difficult to actually avoid showing any cleavage unless wearing very high necklines, though, I will note that you won't really be able to gauge how much cleavage is exposed until she is actually in the dress herself.

Personally, I don't see an issue with this dress and would suggest that maybe you ask her to pin it if need be if it is a bit heavier on the cleavage than desired, though I don't think it is necessary to have her find a new dress altogether.

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It's a classy looking dress. If you're worried about cleavage, a sparkly pin should solve the issue


Most busty women will either show cleavage in a dipping neckline or look matronly and still chesty on a high neckline. It is very hard to find a happy medium.

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It is pretty. What does it look like on her rather than an airbrushed model? On the model it’s not too much cleavage but many churches would say it is inappropriate as an example. But on a real person, it will look different on everyone because of real body types. A seamstress can always add a modesty panel as needed.

I think the dress looks like a good choice for a small Christmas wedding- not inappropriate at all. When it come to being busty, it really doesn’t matter what is worn- a busty girl is going to look busty.

I don't think it shows too much cleavage at all.

If this dress is from Amazon, I believe I have it in black, and I'm very boobylicious in it, and I don't have a large chest

It’s not too much to me, but it clearly is to you, so say something. If she’s sending it to you, she’s asking for your approval and looking for your opinion, so try not to overthink giving it to her. I’d say it is beautiful but you were hoping for something a bit more covered up up top for your wedding. I like PP’s idea of sending over some examples of necklines you are more comfortable with. This is nice both because it sets clear expectations but also is helping with the work of the search!

I think it's a pretty, appropriate dress, but obviously what is appropriate is entirely subjective. I literally can't imagine telling anyone to choose a dress that "didn't show boobs, butt, or hoo ha". Like it would just never cross my mind to say something like that.

But it certainly doesn't matter what I or anyone else here thinks. If you hate this dress, you need to be honest with your MOH. And since she already chose poorly once, you better provide some examples of acceptable dresses. The word "modest" is so vague as to be meaningless, so don't tell, show.

I'm also top heavy and I agree with others that she's going to look busty no matter what. She is busty, she can't hide that. Personally, this dress would be something I wear if I'm not trying to show too much cleavage.

If you don't think it matches what you were thinking then obviously tell her. You don't have to be harsh, but as others have said maybe sending her examples of what you were considering will help. Everyone has a different opinion on what is too much showing.