Too many people!!!

You might be surprised, but of the 175 people invited, you might get 25 that can’t make it.

View Quoted Comment This just made me feel a whole lot better. I kind of hope this happens!

Have you sent invitations already? If you have, start hoping that people decline. If you end up with more that 150 yesses, then you'll have to talk to people about COVID restrictions. Start with the ones you were given by your parents and aunt(!). Reach out to them individually (family units) and say something to the effect of "We're so sorry, we really want you to be at the wedding (true or not), BUT due to COVID restrictions, we are not going to be able to have as many people as we love at the wedding. Again, so sorry."

Honestly, though I would hope for declines - also remember that you, FH, and possibly your vendors will go into that 150.

View Quoted Comment We have received 175 yesses already. That’s why I’m freaking out! I love the message that you provided I will save that thanks!!

This is why you never invite more than you can actually have. Sometimes a bunch of people decline but sometimes not.

What state are you in? Have they been strict the whole time or not?
If it weren’t for COVID, how many people could your venue hold?

Yikes. I don't know how you get out of this situation. You've invited more people than can come to the event, which is really ill-advised. Unfortunately, you are going to have to uninvite some, but there is no polite way to do this. The best thing to do is to call each one and say that, due to Covid, you cannot accommodate them and give a heartfelt apology.

How many people did you invite total if there are already 175 yes? And what state are you in?

View Quoted Comment We are in NY. If it weren’t for Covid our venue could hold 250!!!

View Quoted Comment I agree with Becky.
In fact, there is no kind way to uninvite people, they will be offended ... but since you have to uninvite 25, start with those who were invited by your parents and aunts. You won't miss them anyway since they are not "your guests". Your parents should be understanding with or without covid. People that you and your partner are inviting are more important than anyone that is requested/demanded by dad and mom.

I'm a bit confused. Your wedding is not for 3 months, but you've already sent out invitations AND had 175 people officially RSVP yes? When is your actual RSVP date? How many RSVPs are you still waiting for? Why did you send your invitations so early? At 3 months out it's too early to send invitations, let alone already be receiving RSVPs.

View Quoted Comment I have all these same questions!

Are these just replies people made from Save The Dates? because those do not count. Only the RSVP from actual invitations, sent out 8 weeks ahead of the wedding, count.
I think you are going to be lucky, though. I think your number limits are likely to disappear, if a majority of your guests are vaccinated, and you have enough room left for others to practice social distancing and wear masks. Your venue has such a big capacity, I think that with so many vaccinated, the worst will be telling people not vaccinated to wear masks and keep distance, not to have to uninvite them. If they do not want to do this, that is their choice, not you uninviting them. Hope most vaccinate .

I'm also super confused. How do you already have your RSVPs in 3 months in advance of your wedding? I'm not really sure that there's an appropriate way to get out of this, except for apologizing and uninviting some people. Generally, when people RSVP, that means they will show up. Out of our exactly 120 guests who RSVP-ed yes, 119 showed up (one person got sick the day of). If you already have 175 yes RSVPs, then I'd count on 175 showing up.