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Too many kids in the wedding

Megan, on August 9, 2021 at 7:47 AM Posted in Planning 0 10

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I know it’s my wedding I can do what I want but has anyone had more kids in their wedding bridal Party than actual bridesmaids and groomsmen? My fh has a brother and step brother who both have 3 kids, so 6 total. I thought about only including his brother’s kids not his step brother’s kids but we are always like we are all family regardless of blood or marriage.I also considered asking my best friend’s daughter to also be in the wedding because I’m practically her auntie! So that would take it up to 7 kids! I don’t have a lot of adult girl friends that have would consider close enough to put in my wedding. I am a teacher so naturally when around kids in my family I will hangout with them, play with them, watch them. I’m only planning to have my best friend from out of state on my side, and he is planning to have his brother ( one with the kids) and half brother. I told him I didn’t care about trying to make the sides equal because I don’t want to add anyone just for that reason.

Summary: is it weird to have 6 or 7 kids in your wedding and only a total of 3 bridesmaid/groomsmen?

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Master September 2019
Sarah · on August 9, 2021 at 7:51 AM
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I don’t know if it’s weird, but it could get chaotic depending on the ages of the kids. Are they all old enough to listen and follow directions on getting down the aisle?
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Gabby · on August 9, 2021 at 7:59 AM
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I see how it could get tricky choosing between bro and step bros kids. I honestly wouldn't have any kids in it to save yourself the trouble.
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Sarah · on August 9, 2021 at 8:16 AM
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Like you said, it's what you want. If you feel you and your fiance are close enough with all of those kids and think they won't be too chaotic, then it's not weird at all. Don't have the kids because you feel like you have to, but if you want them in there then that's totally fine!
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Meghan · on August 9, 2021 at 9:32 AM
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I wouldn't say it is weird. But, it will be a lot. I was in a wedding where there were 8 flower girls and it was A LOT! They didn't really cooperate and a lot of guests said it was a distraction.
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Jasmine S. · on August 9, 2021 at 10:50 AM
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I've seen a wedding with 6 kids (3 ring bearers and 3 flower girls, one of whom rode in a wagon because she was too young to walk). Their parents were all bridesmaids and groomsmen, so it seemed to work out. They had a babysitter on site, so right after the ceremony, the kids who were tired/cranky got taken to another room to play and relax.
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Jessica · on August 9, 2021 at 12:42 PM
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I wouldn't say it's weird but like a few have said, it can definitely get chaotic. My FH has 4 sisters who all have children. We decided to have 2 ring bearers & 2 flower girls. The rest of the kids have special jobs such as ushering etc. to make them feel included but not necessarily a part of the wedding party.
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Allie · on August 9, 2021 at 9:24 PM
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As most others have said, it sounds chaotic, but it also depends on their age. We have 6 kids that we would've considered for our wedding, but all are under the age of 4 so we just decided to do no kids. It would've been a little too much with kids that young who don't really understand what's going on. It's all your personal preference!
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Alyssa · on August 9, 2021 at 9:55 PM
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I think you may need to have some hard conversations with some people and remind them that the wedding is not about them or their kids, it’s about you and your groom.

If you feel uncomfortable choosing a flower girl out of too many kids and making them feel like youre choosing, then just don’t have child attendants. This situation sounds like a mess and will likely cause a scene in the middle of your wedding taking the attention off you.
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Jenine · on August 10, 2021 at 1:23 AM
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It’s your day! Don’t listen to anyone, just do what makes you and future husband happy. We decided on immediate families kids only, just our siblings children or those who will be your flower girls/ ring barrier.
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Expert November 2022
Megan · on August 11, 2021 at 7:54 AM
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Thank you for everyone’s feedback! The ages would range from 2 years old to like 13 years old. I was thinking of having my best friend and her daughter walk together. Maybe the three boys walk together with signs (they will be 3,6,7) and the three girls either do flowers or bubbles or signs as well. I’m hoping it’s not too crazy!
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