Too many bridesmaids?

I should have shot it down immediately but I was shocked and confused and just changed the subject. Any suggestions on how to tell her (or not tell her)? I feel bad but I know she will be pissed about it too..

You can have as many or as few bridesmaids as you want! If 7 is what you want then do it!

For the one that u don't want just don't say anything. She'll eventually get the hint.

Tell her you already have a large bridal party and can't accommodate anyone else. As for the size, I've been in a wedding with 6 bridesmaids and about 80 people in attendance, so I think you will be fine. I just think it gets weird when the bridal party is larger than the guests.

Don't seek her out just to tell her she isn't in it. If she asks again you can kindly let her know, but otherwise just leave it be.

You're wedding party can be as big or as small as you want. Just don't feel pressured to have the same number of groomsmen.

You can do whatever you want, but th bigger the bridal party, the more stress and money involved.

I have 14 bridesmaids and he has 7 groomsmen. We plan to have each groomsman walk 2 bridesmaids down the aisle. 150 ppl attrending, but if I had 50 ppl attending I would still keep it the same. These women are important in my life and they want to participate. I say, go for it!

I too have a group of 6 (myself included) from jr. High and only 3 of them are in the wedding as I am closer to those three. The other 3 are cousins because we are super close too. It's not that I don't love the other girls, but I wanted a mix of family and friends. The other 2 understood! If you really can't pick and choose like I did, I say a bigger bridal party is fine as long as you realize it will be a little more expensive from you between gifts, feeding them at the rehearsal and the wedding, etc.

Mine will be the opposite, lol! 200 guests, one MOH, one Best Man, and that's it. Drives both moms a little crazy, but we wanted simple. And my closest friends are helping out and participating in other ways that are just as meaningful. So do what makes you happy! But Celia has an excellent point - the more BMs, the more stress and money.

I have 7 bridesmaids and 7 groomsmen for the same reasons. It's our tight group of friends and family who we do everything with, it would never feel right to cut out a single one of them. I think it's fine if it's what works for you.

Keep in mind these facts.

Every person needs a bouquet, a bout, a gift an invite to the RD with their S/o, a thank you note.

Everyone at your wedding should be important in your life.

Why doesn't your fiancé just have his sister be a grooms gal? It's his sister and less stress for you. Theres nothing wrong with him having a girl.

I agree with everyone saying you can have as many or as few bridesmaids as you want. I'm having 4 (MOH included), and my older cousin chose to have 12! I think your 7 sounds perfect, especially since each of them has a special place in your heart. I'm really sorry that you have another friend assuming she will be a bridesmaid. I do think you should clear things up with her sooner rather than later, so that she doesn't continue to get attached to the idea and so that you can breathe a sigh of relief. I'd suggest to explain to her that while you value her friendship and want her at your wedding, you've chosen to only ask family and your best friends from childhood to be bridesmaids. That would draw a line but would hopefully let her down easy. Also, being a bridesmaid in someone's wedding does not obligate you to ask that girl to be your bridesmaid, or the other way around. You get to choose what is right for you!

I have less than 100 guests and I have 6 bridesmaids including my MOH. There is no rule on how many people you should have in your wedding.