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Too long to be engaged?

Lindsay, on December 26, 2019 at 9:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 15

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We just got engaged November 9, 2019. We started looking at venues almost immediately. We absolutely fell in love with one and couldn’t see ourselves getting married anywhere else, but recently found out they are almost completely booked through 2021. We want a fall wedding so we would be looking at Fall 2022 most likely.. Is 3 years too long to be engaged and plan a wedding?

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Latest activity by Martina, on December 30, 2019 at 6:07 AM

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Chandra · on December 26, 2019 at 9:55 PM
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It's really a matter of preference. Some couples choose a long engagement to ensure they can afford their dream weddings, whether it's 3 years or 10!
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Kristyn · on December 26, 2019 at 10:27 PM
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The date is really what matters to you and your fiance! you can have an extended engagement or have one as short as you wish there is really no right or wrong! I have been engaged since 2016 and we set a date for 2020
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Champion June 2019
Gen · on December 26, 2019 at 10:41 PM
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Depends how you feel. Honestly I would never have been able to wait that long... we were engaged for 18 months (but I didn’t do any planning for the first 6 months) and even THAT felt like too long to me.
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Sexypoodle · on December 26, 2019 at 10:43 PM
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The length of your engagement is up to you and your FH
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Just Said Yes October 2021
Jaiden · on December 26, 2019 at 10:45 PM
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The way I see it is you’ll have more time to save up!
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Sexypoodle · on December 26, 2019 at 10:49 PM
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For fun, FH and I wanted 10/10/20. So that meant a 22 month engagement (quiet long actually). Now we’re down to about 9 months and basically everything is booked and done. So it’s just a waiting game now.
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Vivian · on December 27, 2019 at 12:17 AM
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I absolutely do not think 3yrs is a long time to be engaged! Lol I got engaged August 2019 n look now 5days before 2019 is over and we are getting married 2021 and for me its perfect timing for us to get things together plus plan n pay for a wedding
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Theadra · on December 27, 2019 at 2:19 AM
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We went to the courthouse a 11 months after we got engaged ( engaged Feb 2017, legally married Jan 2018) (but we didn't count it) because that wasn't our celebration. Fortunately, we are financially stable and planning our wedding in June 2020 and couldn't be more than happy. Everyone is different though. I think it just depends how soon you want to have your wedding and how badly you want to have it at that venue. Hope that helps !
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Legend June 2019
Melle · on December 27, 2019 at 3:08 AM
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I think that's long but that's me personally
Ive seen people do long engagements for various reasons that work best for them
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Expert October 2020
Haley · on December 27, 2019 at 9:03 AM
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I got engaged 6/7/18 and getting married on 10/10/20. It has gone by really fast.
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Izzykern · on December 27, 2019 at 9:20 AM
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It just depends on how long you and your FH want to wait. Ours will be just about 2 years by the time of the wedding and it seems like a lifetime 😭 But we wanted a long engagement because I’m just about to graduate and we want to be stable and save money
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Dedicated October 2020
Rebecca · on December 27, 2019 at 12:17 PM
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I have a friend who got engaged about 8 months before me and her wedding is a year after mine. She’s really regretting seeing other people get engaged after her and married before her cause they have an almost 3 year engagement.
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Jennifer · on December 27, 2019 at 1:51 PM
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My FH's cousin and his new fiance are doing the same thing! If that is what you and FH want, it is never too long!
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Cher Horowitz · on December 27, 2019 at 1:59 PM
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I don't think 3 years is too long at all! That gives you plenty of time for wedding planning, pre-marital counseling, and simply getting to know each other better. It gives you great opportunity for both of you to grow as a couple. Congratulations on your engagement!
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Martina · on December 30, 2019 at 6:07 AM
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By the time I get married (May 2, 2020) FH and I will have been engaged for 3 years and 4 months. If you are set on getting married at this venue, then I would say it's definitely worth the wait.
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