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Aspen
Beginner July 2021

Too Late To Elope?

Aspen, on October 1, 2017 at 12:18 PM Posted in Planning 0 10

So I've been wanting to elope forever, but my fiancé said no, and now we're planning a wedding. We have already completely paid for the venue (2900&dollarSmiley winking, booked a DJ (200&dollarSmiley winking, and booked a photographer (750&dollarSmiley winking. Lately, he's been trying to get me to elope. He's given me ideas of where we could go instead, he said he's willing to give me some money so it's not like I wasted it all. The only thing we've gone half on so far is the venue, so I have only paid $1450 of my own money. I would LOVE to elope, but I just don't know if it makes sense financially anymore, since we've already paid about $3850 total. What do you all think?

EDIT: We're looking to spend almost 6 grand more for the wedding

10 Comments

Latest activity by PAMELA, on October 2, 2017 at 1:24 PM
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    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Laney ·
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    Think about how much you would be spending total and how much you would save not paying for flowers, invitations, food, etc. Yes that's a lot of money, but looking back on how beautiful your elopement was, I don't think you will regret how much money was spent. My fiancé and I have already spent $2000 on our venue and if he wanted to elope right now I would say yes. People keep getting added to our guest list and the list for expenses get longer and longer. This wedding is turning into a cost nightmare when it should really just be about our love and devotion to each other. I don't think I'll even get to relax and thing about what our wedding actually means until the day of because I'm planning most of the wedding. I say elope!!!

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  • Kactus Kat
    VIP July 2016
    Kactus Kat ·
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    He's the one that demanded a big wedding but you're the one that's paying for the vast majority of it?

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  • Aspen
    Beginner July 2021
    Aspen ·
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    All the deposits are non refundable. Also the photographer and DJ are not paid off, that was just the initial deposits due. We agreed to just do half on everything.

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  • Shortandsweet
    Dedicated January 2018
    Shortandsweet ·
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    Do what you want. Are you asking for our thoughts, or really permission for something you've wanted all along?

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  • lilam18
    Expert July 2018
    lilam18 ·
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    Why is he wanting to elope?

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  • FutureMrsBurroughs
    VIP October 2017
    FutureMrsBurroughs ·
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    How much was your deposit on the venue? If you can get a majority of that $2900 back I say go for the elopement! There are moments I wish we would have eloped.

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  • Vanessasaurus
    VIP June 2019
    Vanessasaurus ·
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    Can you settle for something in the middle. A very small close family/friends event that still allows you to use the vendors you've paid for but maybe cut other costs?

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    Devoted October 2017
    FutureMrsKnowles ·
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    I don't understand your statement about him giving you money so you haven't wasted it all? But, ultimately, if you are eloping because it's going to make the day more enjoyable for you guys, then I'd take the loss and do it before the cost and stress gets even higher.

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  • Victoria
    Savvy June 2018
    Victoria ·
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    Cut your guest list and use what you already have for an elopement? An elopement is just an intimate wedding. Like a really nice dinner for 10-15 people. I find the splitting everything in half language a little off putting. I feel like his indecisiveness should not cost you money. What do you really want?

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    Dedicated April 2018
    PAMELA ·
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    I agree with most, see if you can get back any money that you have already spent. You said you are about to spend $6k more for a wedding that you and him seem to not really want anymore. So you are about to spend more than what you have already paid. Do what really makes you both happy, it seems like the wedding is become more about other people then about you two.

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