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MrsToBe-BecameMrs
VIP September 2016

Too Late for Dinner?

MrsToBe-BecameMrs, on March 9, 2016 at 2:40 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 17

Is 8 p.m. too late for dinner? We are having a 7:30 ceremony on site and the reception will be in the upstairs ballroom directly after. I was going over a tentative timeline and even though we are doing a short and sweet ceremony our guests won't be served dinner until 8. Is that too late? We were going to have our invites say "dinner and reception to follow" so people would know we are feeding them a full dinner but maybe we should just do heavy apps and stations(?)

I love this venue and 7:30 is the only option for an evening wedding (they do two weddings a day 11 am-4 pm and 7:30 pm-12:30 am we wanted a more formal wedding so we went with the 7:30 option) but now I'm torn about making sure I don't starve my guests.

And no they will not allow a before ceremony cocktail hour. I already asked. I thought a 6:30-7:30 cocktail and apps, then ceremony, then dinner... but its a no-go.

17 Comments

Latest activity by Kelsey, on March 9, 2016 at 3:09 PM
  • Lauren
    Super June 2016
    Lauren ·
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    I would do dinner.

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  • Hollyberry
    VIP October 2016
    Hollyberry ·
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    If it is what they can do, people will understand. If I were invited, I'd go to happy hour in the area before. Also, you could give a timeline of the night on your website or on a program (if you do a program, not necessary). I would do dinner, though. People are used to 8pm dinner, at least my people would be fine with it.

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  • Carlyle
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    Carlyle ·
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    I personally always want dinner before 8pm, however FBIL is having dinner served at 8:30pm for his wedding in June.

    People will know from the invite that dinner will be late so they'll eat or snack beforehand, I know I will be.

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  • OG Kathryn
    Champion May 2016
    OG Kathryn ·
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    I mean, they obviously do it a lot. It will be on your invitation, so guests will be able to eat something light before they attend.

    7:30PM is really late start time. When is your wedding? you will be losing sunlight quickly depending on the time of the year.

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  • BrideMeg
    Super September 2016
    BrideMeg ·
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    I think dinner should be perfectly fine as long as you indicate it on your invitations. Your guests will probably just eat something small before your wedding if they need to.

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  • Monee_Darnel
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    Monee_Darnel ·
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    I'm on the same page as Holly. Just alert guests via word of mouth or website. I'm a night shift worker so 8 pm is no biggie to me.

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  • MrsToBe-BecameMrs
    VIP September 2016
    MrsToBe-BecameMrs ·
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    Thanks, that's true. Any reasonable adult knows when they generally get hungry and can plan accordingly. I know I'll be snacking as much as possible but I'm always hungry Smiley smile

    I like the timeline idea on our website. That would definitely help so there is no confusion. Maybe Ill list on our map some fun spots to grab a drink/finger foods in between the hotel we have a block reserved and the venue.

    Great ideas Ladies! Thanks!

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  • MrsToBe-BecameMrs
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    MrsToBe-BecameMrs ·
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    Sunset for us will be between 8-8:15 but the grounds are very well lit. Though honestly I want most of our pics inside. The venue is SO gorgeous inside! We will also be doing pictures before the ceremony.

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  • D
    Devoted May 2016
    dexlovely ·
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    Although 8pm is a bit late for dinner for me but if you indicate it on the invitation, it should be fine because people will know what to expect.

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  • Hollyberry
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    Hollyberry ·
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    @OP, we put on our website suggestions on places to go for a snack/drink near our venue. I think it is a cute idea!

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  • kai
    Devoted October 2016
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    8pm is fine for dinner. We don't usually eat til 9ish.

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  • P
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    8 pm is pretty standard dinner time for me, so it wouldn't bother me. We also served a late dinner at the time available for our venue (ceremony at 7, cocktail hour 7:30-8:30, dinner 8:30). I don't think it was an issue, but I will say that because of the 7 pm start time, a few people reached out to ask if we'd be serving dinner. I thought it was kind of implied, but the late time can throw people off, so I think it's a good call to include that line on your invite like you mentioned.

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  • Caroline
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    Caroline ·
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    I usually eat dinner really early about 5:30. With that being said, if I knew the dinner would be late, I would eat a later lunch or prepare a snack so I wouldn't be starving to death by 8pm. I don't think it's bad as long as the guest have the right expectations.

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  • Mrs.Frizz
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    Mrs.Frizz ·
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    Perfect time for dinner!

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  • Celia Milton
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    I'd do dinner too, but 8:00 isn't too late for that.

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  • MrsToBe-BecameMrs
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    MrsToBe-BecameMrs ·
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    @Caroline I'm right there with you. It's only 3 pm and I'm already getting hangry. Ok dinner it is. Thanks everyone!

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  • Kelsey
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    Kelsey ·
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    As long as the time is indicated on the invitation, your guests will be fine. those who are used to an earlier dinner will probably have a little something beforehand to make sure theyre not too hungry. my ceremony is at 6:30, we are having cocktail hour with hour dourves after but dinner wont be served until 8:30. its not too late.

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