Helen
Dedicated June 2020

Too early for save the dates?

Helen, on June 11, 2019 at 1:16 PM Posted in Planning 0 22
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Hey everyone!

Our wedding is June 20, 2020 so we are almost to the 365 day mark! I have been wanting to send out save the dates since we got engaged (September 😂) but have obviously held off lol.
Is it too soon to send them out? We do have a good amount of people coming from out of state so I would like to give them a good amount of time to prepare.

How soon did you guys send out your save the dates?

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  • Lauren
    Dedicated June 2020
    Lauren ·
    We are getting married 6/13/20, all guests have about a 2-3 hour drive minimum to our venue. STDs are printed, we are planning on sending in July, probably right after the 4th. I’ve seen 8-12 months for destination weddings, and we are semi-destination. Truthfully I just can’t wait to send them because I’m so excited haha.
  • Helen
    Dedicated June 2020
    Helen ·
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    That’s how I am!! Haha I literally can’t wait. We had our engagement session in November and I’ve been holding onto pictures to use for them 😂
  • Lauren
    Dedicated June 2020
    Lauren ·
    Oh wow haha....we just got our photos done on Memorial Day. I was antsy to get them taken but now I find myself procrastinating on putting the STDs together. Most people already know our date so I don’t really see a problem sending them so far in advance, but I know other people take that sort of thing way too seriously. I’m doing what makes FH and I happy 🤷‍♀️
  • FutureMrsD
    Rockstar July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    We sent our save the dates out 10 months in advance. I felt it was a good amount of time, and more would have been excessive. We invited 225 people, and over half were out of state (two out of the country). We included a small business card sized insert with our main hotel block & wedding website too, which was fully set up, so guests could plan for travel earlier.

  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·

    I totally understand feeling excited and impatient but two things:

    1. I'd definitely wait to send them around the 10 month mark at the earliest, this is when we sent them and we had a lot of out of state guests! If you send them too early, people might lose them or not take them seriously because it is still a year away. And, not to be rude, but I don't want a save the date on my fridge for a year, lol! I love all of my friends, but I put a lot of save the dates away that are further out weddings.

    2. You will be locking yourself into a guest list VERY early. Sending a STD basically is a pre-invite. I know a lot of your plans are probably set in stone but literally anything can pop up! About 11 months out we unexpectedly had to change our venue and drop 20 people from the guest list to fit the new venue (only one in town with our date open). I am glad we waited to send save the dates a little bit just because that would have been awkward and a sticky situation!

    Good luck to you!

  • Christine
    Devoted September 2020
    Christine ·

    I think now is still a little soon. Most of our guests will be coming from out of state and we're waiting until about 10 months out to send ours. I think August, September, or October of this year would be good for you!

  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·

    We sent ours out around August/September last year for our June 2019 wedding, so around 9 or 10 months out

  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
    We sent ours out a year in advance since we were having a Memorial weekend wedding, and I still felt like it was too early. I would definitely send them at most 10 months out.
  • Andrea
    Devoted October 2019
    Andrea ·
    I would wait until 9-10 months before. So many things can come up...and they usually do!
  • Jessica
    Super June 2020
    Jessica ·

    We are 6.6.20 and sending ours out around August/September.

  • B
    Super July 2018
    Brittany ·

    We sent ours 11 months out because our wedding was on a Friday in the summer with very few local guests. Honestly I personally feel that Save the Dates should be sent 9-12 months away because any less than that isn't enough time for guests to actually avoid making vacation/other plans. So I thinks its fine if you send them at the end of this month, the only thing is you need to be 100% sure that you want to invite everyone you send a Save the Date to. Once you send Save the Dates you cannot cut people that received one from the guest list. So if there's anyone you aren't absolutely certain about inviting, just hold off on their save the date.

  • Sherry
    VIP September 2019
    Sherry ·

    For our September 2019 wedding, we sent STD's out in February.

  • Darylese
    Savvy June 2020
    Darylese ·
    Omg I’m getting married on June 20, 2020 too! Congrats
    I was thinking I’m going to send ours out in August or September.
  • Emily
    Devoted April 2020
    Emily ·

    We are sending ours out in September for an April 2020 wedding. We're getting our engagement photos done in July!

  • Danielle
    Rockstar June 2019
    Danielle ·

    We sent ours out at 8 months. Anywhere between 6-12 months is pretty standard.

  • Cristy
    Rockstar May 2020
    Cristy ·

    Most of our guests will be local, just a few out of town people. We did our engagement photo shoot, and our photographer designed our STDs (came with our photo package), and she just sent them to the printer yesterday. I should get them in about a week. But I'm going to hold on to them until about August.

    I am really excited to send them right away, but I'm worried that if I send them too early, especially to people who don't really have to travel to attend our wedding, then people will forget. I do this myself. If I get an STD, and it gets buried on my desk, because the date is a year away, I will forget!! So, trying to avoid that, and waiting just a little longer to send mine. It will still be like 8-9 months out when I do send them.

  • Cassi
    Devoted October 2019
    Cassi ·
    We got engaged in August of 2018 with wedding planned for October 13th 2019. We sent all our save the dates in November and December. But we have a destination wedding as well where most people are flying in
  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
    I didn’t send save the dates but I had an engagement party at the year mark and that was our std. We had our party March 9, 2018 and our wedding March 9, 2019. We used napkins, snap filter, water and wine bottle labels as std so I did the year mark. I had however, a destination wedding with all guest flying to a different country so I think a year was necessary. A friend that had a wedding in November with lots of out of town guest send the std about 8 months before.
  • Sexypoodle
    Expert October 2020
    Sexypoodle ·
    We’re getting married in October 2020. It’s a DW in Las Vegas. So I’m planning to send our save the dates (personalized poker chips with a magnet on the back) in January with a Happy New Year message.
  • Margaret
    Dedicated June 2020
    Margaret ·
    We're getting married June 6, 2020 and I'm sending mine tomorrow!

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