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Katie
Savvy December 2021

Today, I’m sad....

Katie, on September 3, 2020 at 2:12 PM Posted in Planning 0 10
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Today I finally made the announcement through Facebook that my fiancé and I are postponing our wedding in December for next year. It is something that we officially decided on over a month ago but I for some reason have been avoiding letting all my friends and family know. I think because I didn’t want to admit it was real. I have tried to look on the bright side of things. Boy have I tried. I know our small ceremony this year will be beautiful and intimate. But underneath the trying I am heartbroken we were forced to make this decision. I know I am not the only bride affected by this pandemic but I also feel so alone. You just want to google what to do in a time like this and you can’t because this is new territory! On top of the virus, my father has cancer and there is a good chance he may pass next year (his cancer has a median survival rate of one year and it was been 9 months since his diagnosis). I am angry I can’t have the wedding I have always dreamed of this year with the comfort of knowing he will be there to celebrate. At least with our minimony I know he can be there to walk me down the aisle, but it just doesn’t feel the same. I am anxious for next year and the huge uncertainties they bring with my father and also this pandemic. I have reached out on here to gain some support from all the other 2020 brides who were forced to postpone. We definitely need each other!

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Latest activity by Julie, on September 3, 2020 at 4:41 PM
  • Haley
    Savvy May 2023
    Haley ·
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    Wishing you nothing but happiness and comfort. I recently decided to move my date to 2022. Covid has severely impacted all things wedding related, including pre-wedding events. My fiancé’s family lives out of state and we cannot travel this year to celebrate the holidays and our engagement with them. His family treats me more like family than my own so it honestly broke me. I always dreamed of having the full wedding experience and don’t want to look back years from now knowing I never got to properly celebrate with them. So we are hoping by postponing the date to 2022 that it will allow more time for the pandemic to be worked out. I told myself that it will also allow me to save more money for the big day and will be worth the wait. I am terribly sorry to hear about your dad. I am happy that he will still get a chance to walk you down the aisle. Every bride deserves to have their special moments and I hope yours is perfect. We are all in this together and you’re welcome to shoot me a message if you ever want to vent or want advice.
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  • Sharon
    Super September 2021
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    I'm sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis and your having to postpone your wedding. That's a lot to deal with and it can be very challenging. My only advice is to focus on the here and now. The most important thing is that you will have your minimony this year and your dad will be there for that. Even though it's not how you envisioned it, your day, both the small one and larger one, will still be special and amazing.


    Long story short, we did a small intimate ceremony last year due to health issues with my mother in law. It wasn't at all what we had planned but it was still very special. We were planning a bigger celebration for this year but its been postponed until next year. I'm so disappointed about that but I know that will be an amazing party because of everything we went through to get there.
    Hang in there!
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  • Katie
    Savvy December 2021
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    Thank you Sharon. It is very comforting to know you have been through something relatively similar to me. I just hope one day when we look back at all this we will be content knowing we got the weddings we have dreamed of.
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  • Katie
    Savvy December 2021
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    Thank you for the kind words Haley. It means a lot truly.
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  • Hermione
    Expert February 2020
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    I can't really say or do anything to make the postponment or the cancer diagnosis any easier. I am sorry.


    I do suggest you have a minimony on the date with just your parents. And make it as nice as you can. Get a nice cake from a bakery. Do everything you do for the wedding on a small scale like. Sure, covid is new but planned elopements are not. Don't skimp on the details because it's just a minimony. Make it yours, get yourself nice flowers, get a photographer if you can.
    It will be okay because at the end of the day, you will still be marrying your best friend.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
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    Aw sorry to hear. Glad you got a new date. Do something nice for your original date Smiley smile
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  • A
    Devoted October 2021
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    I'm sorry to hear. We are in a similar boat with postponing the big celebration to next year, but having our minimony this year. We had a sense of relief when we postponed because we didn't have to deal with the stress of figuring out how regulations would work with ~120 people, and it just made it easier to push it back.

    I lost my dad a couple months ago due to cancer, so I really relate to this uncertainty you have right now. I'm here to talk if you need to get that frustration out too - there's a level of comfort in talking with other COVID brides because they understand what it's like to get married this year. It's a whole other level to have a sick parent during a pandemic.

    I am sure both of your weddings will still be beautiful and magical Smiley smile

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  • Katie
    Savvy December 2021
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    Wow I am not alone! Thank you for reaching out. It means a lot to hear that someone else understands.
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    I'm sorry Katie, and it's ok to grieve your plans a little! Your intimate ceremony will be amazing, and it will be so wonderful when you can finally (and safely) celebrate with everyone! Smiley heart

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  • Julie
    Beginner May 2021
    Julie ·
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    Hi Katie, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad, your ceremony this year will be even more special because it will be small and intimate and the people you love the most will be there to share it and it will mean more to you.

    We had to postpone our May wedding until next year due to having family coming over from the UK and not knowing whether they would be allowed to come this year. We ended up deciding to have a smaller wedding and changed the venue so it's almost been like planning a whole new wedding but I'm very thankful that we've got the opportunity to do so.

    I understand how you feel and you are definitely not alone, stay positive and think about what a wonderful time you are going to have at both weddings.

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