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Toasts - No Best Man

Emily, on March 10, 2014 at 12:28 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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I am trying to figure out who should give a toast at our reception and I'm having a hard time because we are doing several non-traditional things. I know that the first toast is traditionally given by the best man but my FH has decided not to have one. He couldn't pick between his three close childhood friends and he felt like it would be too much to ask his brother who has three kids. So he decided to just have 4 groomsman. I am having my two sisters be my Maids of Honor and three bridesmaids. I was considering asking the groomsman if they would like to give a joint speech but knowing them I'm afraid that's a recipe for disaster. I know my sisters would like to give one and my Dad has offered as well. If the groomsman don't give a speech I'm afraid it will be very one sided. Both sets of parents and my FH and I are hosting jointly and I don't want it to seem like we're snubbing anyone. Does anyone have an advice?

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Latest activity by Emily, on March 10, 2014 at 1:06 PM

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Emily · on March 10, 2014 at 12:44 PM
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That's a good idea! I don't know why I didn't think of that lol. Thanks!
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Eleanor · on March 10, 2014 at 12:49 PM
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Is there one groomsman you think would like to/would give a good speech? Just pick one if you want one. There are no hard and set rules here. I gave a speech once and I was a bridesmaid, not a maid of honor.
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Stylish Bride · on March 10, 2014 at 12:57 PM
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1) Don't do group speeches. They don't work well.
2) If you can't pick between four males, I would go with the brother. Just introduce him as the groom's brother and not best man etc.
3) If the groom's brother doesn't want to do, select one of the three other groomsman (the one you think will do the best job speaking in public).
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Gillian & Lendyl · on March 10, 2014 at 1:03 PM
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We aren't having a "tiered" or "sided" wedding party. one of the guys made a great speech at a friend's wedding and we think he's likely the best public speaker out of the bunch, so we are going to have him do a speech on everyone's behalf.

i agree that you can ask one groomsman, and/or his parents to do the speech, too, if you want to make it even.
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Emily · on March 10, 2014 at 1:06 PM
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Humm sounds like it will come down to his brother or his Dad. I guess I will see which, if either of them, wants to. Thanks for the advice ladies!
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