To Wishing Well or Not To Wishing Well.... that is the question.

Your mom is correct. Very, very tacky. Eta: The poems aren't cute. They just make it more cringe worthy when you ask for money. Make a small registry of a few upgraded items and people will get the hint.

No no and more no.

This is super tacky. The poem will be super judged.

If I saw a wishing well at a wedding it might get a penny. Thats it.

Mama's school is the best one.

Not, definitely not.

Old school, new school- doesn't matter. Still tacky. Please don't do this!

Your mom is right, it is rude to ask for money. DO NOT ask for money! No poem on your website or invitation, no honeyfund, no wishing well. Make a small registry with a few items you want to upgrade. Sheets, towels, maybe that fancy vacuum you've been eyeing for a while. Guests will get the hint and give you money. Just set out a card box at the reception. ETA: FH and I own our home, and have lived together over 3 years. We're mostly upgrading, and adding a few items we haven't splurged on (like a tumbling composter!).

Ew.

Listen to your momma, she's right. Asking for monetary gifts is out right in poor taste.

FH and I have lived together for a number of years and own our own home. We have a registry for crying out loud. Sure some of its random stuff I don't want to buy myself (cat travel crates, sheets, etc); but it's better than asking for money.

Interesting anecdote for you. My FH's grandma finds these poems (wishing wells, honeyfunds, etc) offensive. She normally gives a check as a wedding gift. If someone asks for money in any way for their wedding, she sends an empty envelope.

What?? Who are these fellow event planers giving you advice? It's not "new school" to be rude!

No - you never ask for cash.

Register for some smaller items - new sheets and towels and the like. And once they are gone - people will give cash. Done

Listen to your momma. And I don't know what event planner would advise that it's okay. Who are these event planners so I can avoid them at all cost?

Listen you your mom, please.

Just do a small registry, or none at all. Adults will know that you want money.

This should never be the question.

People will know to bring checks or cash. Wishing wells are very tacky.

Thanks everyone! Small registry it is.

Are you an event planner?

Your mom isn't ol' school, she is well mannered. And whoever these fellow event planners are, as soon as I found out they endorsed such ideas, I'd be looking for a new event planner. Super rude, super tacky.

If she's an event planner she's probably advised her clients to do tgis