To wait or not?

I asked my sister to be my Matron of Honor and her two daughters to be my flower girls over a before my wedding because I don’t see them often. Killed two birds with one stone when I visited last summer. I didn’t want to wait. Then we scheduled a time for dresses at a later time. About her away. Organizing all that without them knowing could be challenging on short notice since maybe places require appointments and limited amount of people in the shop and you don’t know what the girls plans are the day you are thinking. I don’t see why you can’t ask them to be in your wedding then schedule a girls weekend for down the road to try on dresses.

NEVER too early! Look as early as you can!!! I looked a year and a little bit before my first date. I have looked a little but I’m in love with my dress but the show that I got it in moved around! Also trunk shows you can get discounts so it never hurts to go in and look. As for the bridesmaids dresses, the sooner they find it your you pick it whatever you are doing, they then have the time to pay it off!

When are you getting married?

View Quoted Comment April 3, 2021

View Quoted Comment Oh I would definitely be asking soon, that’s right around the corner!

Have you asked each of them privately, and they have each agreed to do it? It is really nicer to do that, and only give gifts ( which are not necessary at all) AFTER you have privately come to an agreement. Proposal boxes are a recent fad which goes wrong a lot, if surprises. It is awful to have someone send you a gift , all excited, then have to say, No, I cannot do it. And awful to put them on the spot in front of others, as the reasons people cannot do it are often highly personal. Pregnancy, serious financial issues, have already agreed to be in their other friend's wedding, and your date conflicting with one of your family's big event, or their law boards come to mind (all reasons I have said no to different people in the past, all having been so sure.) One bride invited 5 former closest school friends to meet her for dinner, each of us thinking only us. Big surprise, Gifts between fancy dinner and dessert, with champagne never drunk because one after another all five of us had to refuse. The bride to be had hysterics, then became ill. Several other surprises, I have seen prospective bridesmaids and brides terribly embarassed. And sometimes, all say yes, they drop out. they said yes feeling pressured. Gifts, a friend all excited. But they knew they could not do it. And by the time they dropped out, often the bride was mad, and the friendship broken. .....It will be really awkward if you all get together not knowing. What will you do, take anyone who cannot be in the wedding dress shopping with the rest?.... Drop the surprise. Talk to them with specifics of date, cost of lodgings, transportation, any details. If it is not possible, best to know before you start. You can give gifts any time, or not at all. But be fair to your ladies and ask them before the planned trip, and each privately. One or two of them may have a wedding date you don't know about, because they were going to surprise you! Maybe even the same week as you! Find out. 🙂

I would ask them asap! April is not that far out.

Ask them privately asap and then have a party later.