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To wait or not to wait?

Loryn, on October 20, 2020 at 5:38 AM Posted in Planning 0 16
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I’m recently engaged and in the very early stages of starting to plan. My fiancé wants to get married this next year bc he doesn’t want to wait but I would like to wait till 2022 just to make sure we start our lives as a married couple with little to no debt and we still aren’t sure what travel restrictions are going to be like this coming year. Thoughts anyone?

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Latest activity by Brittany, on October 21, 2020 at 12:38 PM
  • Philippa
    Dedicated November 2021
    Philippa ·
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    We waited, regardless of covid. What's the rush? I think there are many valid reasons to get married sooner (want to start a family, tax/insurance benefits, etc). But for us, these didn't apply. We have been engaged for 2.5 years, saved up money, got a dog, bought a house. I like to think of it as enjoying our engagement and taking our time to savor the little things. Why put everything else on hold for a marriage license? You are together regardless. 😊 just my 2 cents
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
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    Sit down with your fiance and have a talk about it. You can come on here for advice but at the end of the day, its your marriage/relationship. I would just weigh the pros and cons of both and decide as a couple.

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  • Kyra
    Beginner September 2023
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    I would wait, our wedding was suppose to be next year but with COVID & all the uncertainty in the world wait till 2022. I moved mine out to 2023. Yes it seems “far away” but it’s truly not. Look how fast 2020 blew by. I have been setting up a wedding binder & man oh man starting January 2021 planning will begin! Don’t rush tour wedding day, you will regret doing shortcuts & etc! Hope this helps !
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I would sit down with your fiance to talk about this. What about spring 2022 or early 2022 as a compromise? That way, it's only a little over a year away, and you have some extra time to save up money. Time does fly by when wedding planning - 2022 would be here quick. With so many people who postponed from 2020 to 2021, you might have a difficult time finding a venue for 2021.
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  • Soon To Be Mrs. Stewart
    Devoted August 2022
    Soon To Be Mrs. Stewart ·
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    Sit down with your fiance and talk about it, tell him your reasoning and maybe you two can come to a mutual agreement. I so wouldn''t rush it either I totally understand where you are coming from.

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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Depends on what you want. If you have debt that you need to pay off, then waiting can be good.
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  • Katie
    VIP August 2021
    Katie ·
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    We had a 2 year engagement, I was against waiting and he was for it. After a month of being engaged I finally decided he was right. And honestly it was the best decision I had made. Not only because of covid but because we didn't have to charge anything for the wedding because we had the time to save up.
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  • Kaylee
    Just Said Yes November 2021
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    We’ve been together 6 years. We bought our house already. Already have pets. Two paid off cars, one with a lien. We are already finically stable. Its happening next year regardless lol. I don’t care if we have to go to the courthouse. I feel like I’ve been waiting forever and I don’t want to wait any longer.
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  • Renee
    Super June 2020
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    Your man is wanting to get married in the next year and you want to wait??? I’m with him, get married and have a celebration later. I was seriously depressed about having to postpone my wedding twice.


    We went ahead and got married on our day and pushed back the celebration to Feb 2020. I would have went out further but our venue wouldn’t let us.
    It seriously was the best decision. I’ve saved so much because I have cut out a lot of meaningless expenses. COVID isn’t going anywhere and again, YOUR MAN WANTS TO MARRY YOU TOMORROW!!!!!!!
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't think it's a bad idea to wait or to compromise you can elope and then have a celebration later

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  • L
    Expert September 2020
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    If you want to get your debt paid off, I’d wait. But if your main concern is waiting til Covid is over, get married now and hold your reception in 2022
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  • Jai
    Rockstar May 2020
    Jai ·
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    To compromise you can always have a small wedding. That saves a lot.
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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Maybe the compromise is to have the wedding next year but keep it simple. That way you aren’t spending a lot of money and won’t add to your debt.
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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    Just an idea . . I would elope or have a minimony soon and save up and plan a big party for 2022 or 2023 for an anniversary. It's a win win situation.

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  • Kaysey
    Super February 2020
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    I'd say sit down with your fiance and talk about it. Don't hold anything back. Explain to him why you want to wait and let him explain why he wants to get married so soon. My husband and I had a short engagement. We got engaged in the beginning of April 2019 and got married February of this year. We had about 10 months to plan our wedding. The reason why we got married so fast is because we both want kids as soon as possible, but neither of us wanted to start trying to have kids until we were married. We were financially stable and perfectly able to afford our wedding on our own without having to dip into our savings, so that's why we didn't wait. We both wanted to get married so we can start a family sooner than if we waited. If you want to wait so you have time to get your finances in order, then I'd say wait. If he still wants to get married, I'd say try and compromise and have a smaller wedding early and then save and plan a larger reception on your one year anniversary.

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  • Brittany
    Dedicated November 2020
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    I was not one to want a long engagement. There was no rush for us, but the fact I just didn't want to wait two years to have a fall wedding. We had roughly 10.5 months to plan and did everything we wanted to. Financially, you'll be able to afford what you absolutely want, you'll be surprised at how much you have left over. That being said, start your research on venues and how much vendors cost so you can gauge how much you can afford.


    3 weeks to go for us and it goes fast in the beginning, and then a few months of nothing to do. The last 2 months will fly by regardless of your time line! Personally, I think two years unless absolutely necessary is too long just because you're going to have a long time in between planning where there isn't much to do.
    Regardless of your decision, your wedding will be absolutely beautiful and perfect!! Good luck!
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