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Emly
Expert June 2020

To use the Chapel or not

Emly, on May 24, 2019 at 1:07 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 5

I need some options and mainly advice on how to let my mom down easy LOL. Smiley xd

So our venue is an old historic ground with a few old log "shacks" on it, very cute and I love the rustic look. WELL there is also a small little chapel on the property as well and as soon as my mom saw it she instantly said "yes this is it you guys HAVE to get married right in front of it." At the time i didn't have the heart to tell her i hated it so i did my usual nod and "yep".. She keeps going on and on about how cute it is and this and that but honestly I think its tacky and would prefer a more natural setting for the ceremony plus there is a specific shot i would like my photographer to get and it wouldn't be possible in front of the chapel. Another part of me feels like when our guests see that there is a chapel on the property and we chose not to be married in front of it they will comment about it.

I'm super shy and don't like conflict at all, so i guess you could call me a pushover LOL. My mom is super excited about this and I'm super intimidated by her how do i let her down easy??

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5 Comments

Latest activity by Pirate & 60s Bride, on May 24, 2019 at 7:34 PM
  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Just tell her you had a different vision in mind for your ceremony and don't think the chapel is going to come out as nicely in photos. Maybe you can take photos with her in front of it?
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  • Elyssa
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Don't let your mom talk you into doing something you don't want to do. It's your wedding, and if you don't want to use that space then you shouldn't have to. Just tell her you think it's too much, or not your style, or just straight up that you don't like it, and you have something else in mind. I am also kind of a pushover, and I have to keep steeling myself and putting my foot down when something isn't what I want. Think of it as a crash course on standing up for yourself, it gets easier the more you do it. Good luck!
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  • D
    Super July 2020
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    Say things like "I wasn't getting the big moment feeling at the chapel." "When I stood over at (your preference) I knew that was the spot!"
    " the chapel is a great place to take pictures after I get married at (your preference) "
    "Mom I know you like the chapel, and so do I, but I LOVE over there."

    If all else fails:
    - it's haunted
    -it's a reconstructed outhouse
    -it's currently occupied with a population of homeless insects.
    -it's a reconstructed outhouse haunted with the memory of homeless insects.
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  • Emly
    Expert June 2020
    Emly ·
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    LOL love this - thanks Smiley xd

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Wa ha ha. I love this response.

    Smiley xd

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