To throw an engagement party or not??

Hi there, and congrats on the engagement. It's not considered good etiquette to throw your own engagement party in honour of yourselves. Is someone hosting it for you?

You feel weird because what you're hinting at -- throwing your own engagement party -- is inappropriate. If your families, the people that throw parties all the time, are willing to host this engagement party, then have a great time -- but do it this month. Just make sure that everyone attending your engagement party will receive a formal invitation to your wedding.

Throwing yourselves an engagement party? Nope, that's an etiquette fail.

If you are getting married in six months odds are you will be having a bridal shower / bachelorette party alongside of the rehearsal and wedding so if I was you I wouldn't want an engagement party because that's a lot for six

Months! However if it's important to you I agree 100% with centerpiece and urge ur parents to be the ones hosting and everyone invited must be invited to the wedding as well!

Hmmmm ok that 100% makes sense!

Family keeps asking me if we are having an engagement party which surprised me because I didn't think that was something we were supposed to be doing!

I guess my initial feeling was right! Thank you ladies

I'm going to add a different opinion. We are doing a destination wedding. My FH proposed on Christmas Day of 2015 and we are getting married in march (38 days from now). We wanted to do a party with those going down to Florida for the wedding. So in August of 2016 we threw an engagement party. My FH and I threw it. It gave everyone a chance to meet each other and we had a great time. Everyone was very happy to have met each other too!

I do agree with other opinions that an engagement party now is a lot of work given how close your wedding date is. However if you want one do it! But you definitely don't need to do one

@Elizabeth that makes a lot of sense that you guys did it your way!

I think if we were to have a party it would be relatively low key but pretty large given the size of our families so it could definitely be quite the undertaking!

Thankfully our family is mostly close geographically and our venue is close by too so that's not the issue!

Throwing your own anything- Engagement party, shower, bachelorette seems gift grabby and definitely poor etiquette!

We threw our own "engagement party." I put it in quotation marks because we just grilled some fish we had caught at the beach and it was just a few of our friends and my parents. During the summer we have cookouts all the time. This one just happened to be right after we got engaged. We said we'll just celebrate our engagement then so no one feels obligated to throw a party.

Some people are way too uptight about throwing your own party. You don't have to ask for gifts. What if you don't have any family near to plan it, what if you don't have friends who can afford to throw a party? What if you don't have any party-throwing friends? What if you feel guilty for having someone else spend time and money on an engagement party?

Do your own thing! No one is trying to impress the queen of England

Well Lyndsy, in that case you don't get an engagement party. Nobody is entitled to one.

If you want to get the two families together to meet, then just host a dinner party. There are no rules about throwing a party for two sides of a family.

You do not have to call it an engagement party or make it about you. Others are correct- it is in poor taste to throw yourself and engagement party.

We didn't have an engagement party...I don't feel like I missed out on anything

I think it's a little too late for an eparty at this point. Also if someone else isn't throwing it for you, it's a little odd.

Since you're 6 months away from your big day, I would just skip it. I didn't have one and it wasn't missed.