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To The Younger Brides...have You Gotten These Annoying Questions?

Soon2Bemarried, on November 20, 2020 at 6:50 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 14
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"You’ve barely lived life...you wanna stick with one person for the rest of it"?
"The ink hasn’t dried off your diploma yet and you’re stepping into more debt?""Girl you’re just a baby...you wanna get married?"

WW Family...am I bugging to think these questions are annoying?🤣 A healthy skepticism of anything is no problem, but I feel like these questions are backhanded a lot of the times a because of who they come from. I have thick skin but it’s just like uhh where’s the support? I don’t doubt our love but I think people doubt we’ll make it because of our age (early 20s).
Reflecting as our anniversary approaches... Millenial & Gen Z brides, how have you dealt with these kinds of comments? Did you take it to heart? Did you ever have people in your ear/corner supporting you in public but questioning your judgement in private?

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Latest activity by Jessica, on November 25, 2020 at 6:13 PM
  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
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    I DEFINITELY got some type of comments and questions like that aha. i mean i wasn't that young when i got engaged and married - i was 24 turning 25 when i got engaged and 25 turning 26 when i got married. BUT a lot of my friends were just like man that FEELS early because stereotypically, millennials don't settle down until later i guess. and i think it just got them to reflect on themselves because to think "man we're the same age and you're already getting into this stage, where am i at?"

    i always said it like that line in harry meets sally - when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want that to start as soon as possible.

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  • Soon2Bemarried
    Dedicated October 2022
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    Yes I found my partner early and we’re making it happen! I felt the exactly way, people think it’s a judgement against them because you’re the same age as them or way younger than them and you’re getting married or have a big milestone about to occur so in turn they project their angst on to you 🤣!
    #StandStrongMillenialBrides
    #StandStrongGenZBrides
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  • Olusola
    Dedicated November 2020
    Olusola ·
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    Yes..I think it’s so inappropriate when people ask “you’re so young! are you sure???”
    Yes. I’m sure lol I have faith in what God has put together
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  • Soon2Bemarried
    Dedicated October 2022
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    Amen!!! And the devil is mad.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
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    Perhaps they ask because of their personal experience? Regardless, unless they really know you and have a relationship with you, it's not their place to ask such a question.
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  • Olusola
    Dedicated November 2020
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    And he’s gonna stay mad too! Nothing he can do to shake the perfect will of God
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  • Annika
    Expert November 2020
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    Omg it never ends for me! Im 20 and my fiance is 22. We've been together for 4.5 years and have been living together for the last 2 years. I HATE when people tell me im too young because they dont know my life or what ive been through. Ive been on my own since i turned 18 and my fiance and I have made it through so much together. Long distance, health problems, car accidents, disapproving family, i mean the list is neverending. I am very responsible and independant and if they dont think that im mature enough to get married than they really dont know me well enough at all. Weve been livimg together for 2 years and share everything, i mean we are practically married already lol!
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  • Soon2Bemarried
    Dedicated October 2022
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    We can only live our lives for ourselves and our loved ones, no one else. Keep on 💫
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  • Soon2Bemarried
    Dedicated October 2022
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    Absolutely!!
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  • T
    Super April 2021
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    I got engaged at 23, almost 24. No one suggested we were too young; if anything, people tend to think I have my life more together. We had both graduated over a year previously, lived on our own, had careers, etc.


    I do think there is an element of truth to maturing and living life before getting engaged or married. You change a lot in your teens and early 20s so it's important to know who you are and what you want before making a lifelong commitment.
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  • Allie
    Rockstar November 2021
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    I’m on the other end, I’m 32 and getting married at 33 and people made comments like, “finally!” “Took him long enough!” And “why are you waiting so long to have a wedding” (we are getting married almost 2 years after we got engaged). So girl, people ALWAYS got something to say!!! There is nothing at all wrong with being married at a younger age! My best friend and her husband got married really young and they’re happily married still. Everyone is so different!
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  • Soon2Bemarried
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    I agree 100%
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  • Soon2Bemarried
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    I hear that!!!
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  • J
    Savvy June 2021
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    I’ve been on the opposite end of things! My dad has been trying to get me married since I was 18. It’s a miracle that I was able to make it to 24.

    My secret to holding out that long was not learning how to cook and to consistently be pursuing one degree or another lol

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