To "shoe game" or not ?

I have never heard of this game until I was on here. I feel like it would interrupt the flow of the wedding. I want people mingling and dancing. I have seen something similar played at a shower where the groom comes in and the bride and groom each have a sign that says "me" and "him/her" and they hold up the sign and it was cute, but I feel like a shower is a better place for games. Weddings people want to drink and dance. Or at least I do! lol

Thanks guys! I decided to skip it.

I'm keeping the bouquet toss though, I always loved that part, don't know why

I think it's so cute!!!

I've seen it done twice and the guests loved it! They asked questions like "who is a better drive" and the crowd got really into it both times I saw it happen

It is a wedding and I feel like "games" are tacky.

We played it at our shower and FYI no one asked "Who's on top." Tf? It was funny and everyone laughed at our shower, but I probably wouldn't have it at our reception. I'm with FB, know your crowd.

No no no

This to me is the stuff of nightmares. As a guest, I would have second hand embarrassment. Avoid!

I think the issue with it is that the guests don't interact with it at all, they just watch, so it kind of kills the flow of the party. I would skip it.

I personally think it's more suited for a shower rather than the actually wedding if you're going to do it at all.

I am not a fan of reception games. Or shower games, for that matter. I haven't seen the shoe game done in person, but if I did I would sit and watch politely while impatiently waiting for it to be over so I can drink and dance.

If you WANT to do it, do it, I like what FB99 said. It shouldn't take that long, as if it does in my opinion, no bueno. I think these are nice depending on the crowd, but if you want to do this, go ahead and do this. I think it's weird your band is suggesting it, my sister did this at her afterparty which I thought was super cute and appropriate in a laid-back celebration back at our parent's house. But you also need to know your crowd, and it may be a nice break from dancing.

My friend did it and they had questions like who is the messiest etc which I just found kind of odd. Why do your family and friends need to know who's messier? I don't know I think it's an odd concept to me!

I personally have never been to a wedding that has games, just open bars. That seems to be enough for people.

If your crowd is good with it and it's something everyone will do, go for it. If people will grab a bottle of wine off the table and go to the loo, then rethink the idea.

ETA: @AL - Have you been personally victimised by the shoe game? Is that why you lump it with cash bars and Honeyfunds?

So, I was a guest at a wedding last summer where they played the shoe game (I had never heard of it before that), and I actually found it very amusing! It never crossed my mind that it would be tacky, and it was in the center of the dance floor, so shoeless feet were far away from all of our food. They did it as we were all still seated at the tables finishing up dinner, so I didn't find that it got in the way of the party. I also didn't find it boring at all.

I think the secret was that they kept it short, sweet, and stayed away from anything too weird or embarrassing. I can definitely see how it can get tacky or embarrassing, but with the right crowd and the right person asking the questions, I personally found it kind of fun.

Is the band suggesting it because they need something to have going on while they take a break? It might be a nice filler in that case.

I know I have the UO here, but while I've only seen it at one wedding, I personally enjoyed it. It was cute, it made me laugh, and it lasted less than five minutes. However, I knew the couple pretty well. I imagine it would be less fun if I didn't know the couple as well.

I agree pretty much everyone - not for the wedding. If you really want to do it, do it at a shower. However, FH's aunt has tagged us in the popular Facebook video of it twice now and really wants us to do it. I would only consider it for the rehearsal dinner since it's our closest friends and family there. As PP said, if it's for a filler during a break, maybe just have an iPod of some music they can play instead.

I say no but it's all on you and FI!

I think the game is cute, but we did not do it.

We didn't do a bouquet or garter toss either. Or cut the cake. You don't have to do stuff to fill time, the music and dancing will fill plenty of time.

Once our band started playing they didn't stop except for when they chose to take breaks.

I've seen it done. Cute for abouuuuut 5 questions. Then it went on, and on, and on, and on, and on, and on....you get the point I hope.