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To save the date or not?

Jessica, on May 21, 2019 at 8:44 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5

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Hi! We are in Pittsburgh, pa and getting married in California. We are only inviting 10 people to our actually wedding ceremony. It’s going to be in the mountains, limited space, hard for seniors etc.

After the wedding, back home, we are having a huge reception/party to celebrate.

Do we send save the dates for the reception? If so, how do you word that you’re not invited to the ceremony, but come celebrate with us after?

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Latest activity by Bridget, on May 21, 2019 at 7:55 PM

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Formerbride · on May 21, 2019 at 9:04 AM
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I didn't send STDs. They're not necessary. You don't have to mention anything about your wedding in California. You can just put on them something like "please save the date, so we can celebrate" and not make any mention of a wedding. I'm sure they will find out via word or mouth or social media that you're having an intimate DW.
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Melissa · on May 21, 2019 at 10:04 AM
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I agree, I am do a DW and a reception/party at home and will not be sending save the dates for our reception at home.
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MrsD · on May 21, 2019 at 11:01 AM
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We sent Save the Dates. We had a lot of out of state guests so it made it more feasible for them to attend. If you do send them, I'd send two different ones. One for the destination ceremony and one for the home reception.
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Madison · on May 21, 2019 at 1:00 PM
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If your invitees to the reception are local, you don't really need STDs. Those that may need travel arrangement, assuming it's a small number, you could just let them know personally.
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Bridget · on May 21, 2019 at 7:55 PM
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You don't need to send save the dates... I see these a lot as "I do" Bbq if you want something fancy I would just do something saying how you already tied to knot and now its time to celebrate. making it clear that you are only inviting them for a reception!
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