To put "dr" or not?

If you’re paying specifically for the invites yourselves, then I say do whatever you want!! There’s no real rules to it, if you’re not comfortable putting Dr. then don’t it’s your wedding and you’re paying for most of it so feel free to get what you want!

I have my doctorate of physical therapy and I’m not going to put “Dr.”. I worked hard for it, but I just don’t want it to be in the invite. I’m not a medical doctor, so I don’t want to use the line and confuse problem haha

I think that’s personal preference. Dr. Is different, but I am an RN and it never occurred to me to put that on my invites. It’s a personal event not tied to my profession. But dang if you have your md you sure earned the right to say that!

I have a BS and an MBA, and my fiancé is a doctoral candidate with two BS degrees under his belt. I wouldn’t dream of adding our credentials, such as they are, to our wedding invitations.

Even if we were medical doctors, that fact would be irrelevant to our pending marriage and thus I would not put “Dr.” on our invitations or whatever.

We will eventually be Dr. and Mrs. Matt, for formalities later on. But seems weird to note that now.

I don't think a wedding invite is the place to put that. She is probably very proud of you

I personally would not put that on any of my wedding stuff. I'd be proud beyond belief (congratulations!) and I think your mom is too and she just wants to show it off but I really don't think a wedding is the place for that since a wedding is about your relationship with your FH not you as individuals. It just sort of seems like an "in your face" on an invite ... I don't really know it's just off putting to me and I would not do it but totally up to you!!

I’ve never seen the marrying parties’ names on an invite to involve titles, I would find that a little weird if I received one like that

My wedding is before I finish school (I'm an MD student), but if I were getting married after I'd be realllly tempted to add the title. I think it works either way and I wouldn't think anything of it if you used your title.

Oh and congratulations! Earning those letters is no small feat.

Hi Chantel,
I am having the exact same dilemma! I am about to defend my PhD next month and I can’t decide if I should put Dr in front of my name either, because I will be one by the time we send the invites out. On one hand, I am planning to put Dr on the addresses of my PhD guests because you are supposed to when you address a formal invitation...but it feels weird and conceited to do it for myself! I think ultimately I am just going to put my first and last name and just avoid the title because “miss” or “ms” also seem disingenuous

I had the exact same problem when planning my wedding. My mom wanted me to put Dr. on the invitations and also have us introduced at the reception as Mr. and Dr. I ultimately decided against it. I am very proud of my degree and worked incredibly hard for it, but I wanted that bridal feel for my wedding. I always dreamed of being introduced as Mr. and Mrs. when I finally got married. A wedding is a time to celebrate your marriage and to me not the time to celebrate my degree. In the end it is completely up to you. Your mom may push for you to have Dr. but will eventually realize it is your wedding and you have to do what makes you happy.

So I would take a step back and decide how formal you want to be. If you want to be really formal and have your invite read:
"Dr. Chantel Smith and Mr. Joe Doe request the honor of your presence at their marriage...."

Or

"together with their parents you're invited to the wedding of Chantel Smith and Joe Doe"

If you want it super formal, then I think you decide if you want to say Ms. or Dr. I think the answer here would be, do you want people to address you as Dr. in every day life? If not, then do Ms.

I think it's super nice your family is supportive and proud of the Dr. title. It's not bragging in the slightest about your accomplishment. It's who you are vocationally.

Here are two links to Emily Post article to help you decide on invitation wording:

http://emilypost.com/advice/samples-of-formal-wedding-invitation-wording/

http://emilypost.com/advice/formal-wedding-invitation-wording/

My FH is a doctor and he would die if I put that on any of the wedding stuff. He feels it's really pompous and he's even gotten in trouble at the hospital for not introducing himself as Dr. to patients. I think this is personal preference honestly but I've never seen it on an invite, wedding website, etc. before. I agree it probably depends on how formal you want to be.

I think that's weird to put it no offense. I have only seen people address others as Dr when writing out addresses, which is necessary. I don't see why your title needs to be announced to everyone for a wedding when I am sure most of the people in your life know you have a doctorate title anyway.

Maybe you can just put the titles on the return address? Keep the actual invite portion with just Jane Dole & Bob Smith. I've never seen the bride and groom have titles (Mr. or Miss) on an invite before.

This is interesting as I am doing my invites and my in-laws want the invitation to include their academic titles. Their names will appear after my parents (paying for the wedding) and I currently have them as Mr. and Mrs. for consistency for the invitation presentation. I understand addressing guests as Dr. but I didn’t think bridal party and parents reference their degree in the invite. What do you all think?

Someone in my family has been doing this for several years now and I love the fact that they are two of them doctors, however, I think it’s boasting and bragging because most people know that you are a doctor but if it’s a personal affair with a family member I don’t believe they need to address themselves as doctors, it’s a bit pompous. We love them, but we don’t have to address them as doctors at weddings and formal occasions. And please don’t sign someone’s wishes book with that either. I have a masters degree and I don’t sign that. It’s like saying, do you know who I am? What are we Fauci?