To postpone or continue as planned?

I personally would postpone, but that's just me. I would feel awful if someone caught COVID from my wedding. However, I also realize that postponing isn't the best option for everyone. Are you definitely planning to be married in January, regardless of whether you postpone? If so, you could do a small ceremony in January with immediate family and wedding party only, and then a larger reception later once COVID threat is minimized. Or, if you still have a larger guest list, you could decrease your guest count again to lower risk. If you're looking for a wedding without masks or fear of COVID, I would postpone.

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’m leaning more towards is just postponing. We have a lot of older guests that would be in attendance and I just can’t stop thinking how terrible I would feel if they caught it or anyone did for that matter. Picking a new date is so hard when we just don’t know how the world is going to be in the upcoming months. They have given us the option to reschedule as far out as August, so we may end up going back to around our original date.

Honestly, it's up to you. I hate postponing with a passion. We are set for September 2021. If, God forbid, this is still going on by then, we are doing a huge list cut down and just having our immediate family and our best friends and following strict Covid-19 guidelines. That is basically what my cousin did for her August 22nd wedding this year. None of this postponing stuff for me.

View Quoted Comment I’m so over postponing too. Seeing as we are actually on our 3rd postponement if we do decide to move from this new date. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m honestly so ready to just be married. We’ve been engaged and planning since January of 2019. This virus had ruined everything. I just don’t want to look back at my wedding pictures and see everyone in masks.

I would either postpone or keep as is while decreasing the guest list

We've postponed twice so we aren't doing it again--we are set for Feb 27 whether we can have our full wedding or just a small ceremony with our immediate families. We just don't want to wait until an unknown time to get married.

To me, postponing once is enough. I’ve seen couples contemplating a 2nd and 3rd postponement and it just feels like too much. So I say keep January and decrease the guests count again If that’s more comfortable. Back in June, we postponed from October 2020 to October 2021. Initially we weren’t going to change the date. But the virus was so new and factors specific to our wedding weekend made waiting the best choice. Hopefully the virus is better managed by our new wedding date and our plans can be carried out. But, either way, we’re tying the knot next year, wherever and with whoever is present. If needed we’ll just have to make up for it with a big 1st anniversary vow renewal celebration. Best wishes on whatever you decide.

View Quoted Comment Completely understandable. That’s where I am at as well. We’re taking this weekend to really think about it and go from there.

For me personally it would depend on what your guest count is. If you're having something small like 50ish people then I would continue, if you're doing something with over 100 people then I would postpone it.


Or legally get married that day and postpone the big celebration for later

If I were in your shoes, I would probably move it out a few months to late spring/early summer (not sure what the weather is like in AZ then). I'm April, in a state with no restrictions, and I feel comfortable with that but would be nervous about a winter wedding. I totally understand why you don't want to postpone again though!

Hi love,

I can only imagine how stressful this is for you. Planning a wedding in 2020 is definitely tough. I wouldn't postpone getting married any longer but I would postpone the celebration. I know it isn't ideal but your life simply can't stop because of this pandemic. Have your marriage at a court or church with a small gathering and postpone your big celebration with family/friends for later on in 2021. Best of luck!

April AZ bride here- i world postpone. With the vaccine barely coming out, there’s not enough time for it to go to the general public.

With the virus numbers escalating I would be hesitant to even have a micro wedding in January. Especially with family members testing positive, etc. If it were me I would postpone. I’m so sorry, this whole situation is just heartbreakingly horrible. Good luck girl!

I was in the same boat you are in...I’m in NJ and we are scheduled to get married March 19 and right now our state allows for 150 people at weddings. We talked about shrinking the guest list down to about 50, but our caterer can’t go below 100 so we have made the decision to have a small ceremony with just immediate family and wedding party then postpone the reception to ‘22 (we’ve been together 10 years and I’m not waiting any longer to get married lol 😂) We have family flying in from and family who are in the high-risk category so the risk is something we didn’t want to take.

View Quoted Comment Such tough decisions. I would have a talk with your elderly guests and get their thoughts. I am so sorry you are going thru this. Ohio has a lot of restrictions for weddings, which have to be factored into the equation. I am not sure that this virus will be under control for quite awhile. Also, what does your fiancee think? One other thing to consider is using technology to stream your wedding to those elderly guests & anyone who is uncomfortable attending your wedding. Just be sure to communicate clearly & ahead of time to all guests! Good luck!