To or to not postpone??

I think that’s up to you. We are personally waiting until August to decide on our October wedding.
I recommend checking your contracts and with your vendors & venues to find out what their policies are for rescheduling just to make sure you A. Wouldn’t lose any $ B. Wouldn’t have to pay higher rates for the next wedding season pricing.

Yes. 100% Postpone and you will be relieved!


As much as I want to be cheerful and optimistic, I don’t think large gatherings will be safe this year. I postponed from August to February and am actually paying a little less as it’s the off season.

I am holding out until June to make a big decision for our August wedding. Maybe reach out to your vendors and set a soft postponement date just in case or even see what they have available. Like pp said, check your contracts with vendors regarding their rescheduling policy.

Do not postpone or listen to negative people. theres plenty of time to make the decision. i would wait till july to make the decision

I Think You Should Hold Out On Postponing Until Later On. But if You Know For A Fact Finances Will Be A Problem I Would Postpone So That You Aren't Stressing As Much

View Quoted Comment I don’t think anyone (me) is trying to be “negative.” It’s more about being realistic and not wanting to put people you love at risk. Postponing my wedding was absolutely devastating but I know it was the right thing to do for me.

I personally would not postpone yet, you have months to go!! A soft hold on a back up date in 2021 might make you feel better, I would ask if your venue could do that for you😊

View Quoted Comment Im not saying youre negative it just doesnt make sense to postpone at this point in time because most venues are not postponing september weddings right now. theres just a lot of negativity on many of these posts where brides are encouraging people to postpone for no reason. if in 2 months things are still bad then yea you might have to postpone but to do it now is premature. what if things are fine infection rates stay down we have a treatment and u cancelled for no reason. i would never forgive myself if i did that

View Quoted Comment Yes I was thinking the same. Spring of 2021 would be our possible postponement

View Quoted Comment Yes, I’m nervous about the an even bigger strain it could put and my FH relationship because of finances 😕

Our wedding was originally scheduled for November, but with all the uncertainty surrounding the Covid situation, we have decided to postpone until November 2021. There were many factors that went into our decision, but an unexpected outcome was the relief I felt after making the decision! We now have a whole additional year to save money, and will even be able to add some fun extras that we wouldn’t have been able to afford if we hadn’t postponed! Your wedding should be an amazing once-in-a-lifetime event, and you deserve to ENJOY it to the fullest! If keeping your date is causing you stress and making it unenjoyable, you may want to consider the option of postponing. I am a huge fan of making pros/cons lists - sometimes seeing the facts laid out in black-and-white helps you to make a decision.

I think your reason to postpone sounds pretty valid actually

We aren't postponing our September wedding because we already postponed once and had most everything paid off. We are still both working so it's not a money issue either. Ask your venue about postponing and if they will allow it and/or charge a penalty. There's no harm in coming up with a backup plan.

I'm all about starting off marriage in the best financial situation possible. While I think you may still be safe for a September wedding, my opinion is that if postponing will ease financial strain, it's a good idea.

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"Negative" comments, surrounding a wedding, are things like

"you'll probably get divorced so why get married anyway?"

"that venue you chose isn't pretty enough"

"ugh, whyyyy did you have to choose thaaaaat date, that's when my niece is graduatingggggg ughhhhh"

People being realistic about the potential to postpone a wedding because of a worldwide pandemic... realism. If she postpones and things are fine on the original date, I'm pretty sure it'd be something OP could get over, especially considering how things would be even "further into 'fine'" by the new date.

OP, I'm in the wedding industry and it's not premature to postpone a September wedding, though it does slightly depend on where you are. If you need more time to save up for wedding costs, especially if you've been hit hard financially, I think it would be a smart thing to consider postponing. Weigh out your financial pros and cons--hopefully that will help you make a decision!

View Quoted Comment I wasnt referring to any specific comments on this post. i was referring to some negative people in general whether its on this website or in real life. this is a forum to provide advice and my advice is not to listen to negative people not specifically anyone here. i dont even read other peoples comments. and personally i feel its too early to make that decision. for instance i have coworkers who tell me “september?! ha! u can forget that.” thats what i meant.

Hi Rachel,

I'm so sorry you are going through this! I agree with most of the suggestions above. While this is definitely an uncertain time, it seems like plenty of September couples are waiting to make postponement decisions. Of course, everyone's situation is different, so it never hurts to be proactive about plan B!

You aren't alone right now! ❤️If the financial strain of this pandemic prevents some of your guests from attending, will you be OK with their absence? Will waiting until 2021 guarantee their presence? You can't control anyone's circumstances, of course, so maybe you could take an informal poll of the family and friends that you most want to see at your wedding. Their responses may help you decide your next step. In the end, you should make the decision that feels right for you.
At the end of the day, you and your partner need to do what is best for you!Sending so much love your way!