To Invite or Not

If it's adults only, then I wouldn't invite the minors. I wouldn't invite the bf's children unless you hang out with them one on one or are inviting more of the bf's family.

I wouldn't invite your stepmother or her family if they haven't been kind to you. Maybe it's just me, but I don't think you should invite anyone because you're "supposed to"

Yes, invite your parents’ significant others. Since, your mom’s SO’s children are of legal age, there’s no issue with inviting them also. Since you’re having an adult function, it’s absolutely understandable and a legitimate reason to not invite the children of your fathers’ partner.

I agree. Invite everyone of age.

I agree with the others about inviting people of age if that's what you want to go with. I would maybe talk to your dad with out his wife being around and maybe tell him right off the bat that if anything is started they won't be invited or asked to leave (if your comfortable with that).

So mom’s boyfriends children are technically adults, so if you invite them (which I’m assuming you would prefer as you say they have been very welcoming to you) over dads girlfriends children, you can definitely get away with it as her children are not adults. But invite who you would like to invite. You shouldn’t have to justify that to anyone, and you are in no way obligated to invite extended members of dads girlfriends family to your wedding - they technically aren’t family, after all.

Invite everyone of age... Make the invitations specific with this information. You do your part sending the invite. They can decide wether to go or not to go. And is not like the 14 year old needs a babysitter. Don't let them guilt you in to making an exception. It's YOUR wedding.

I wouldn't invite your stepmother's extended family, but her kids are your step siblings, so I'd invite the kids. Unless, of course, you want her to keep bringing it up and using it against you going forward.

I don't think you need to invite her family, but I would definitely invite her children (your step siblings).

View Quoted Comment I totally agree with ya Cher! Don’t invite anyone who isn’t positive toward you.

Well since your mom's boyfriend's kids are 18 and up, there's no reason not to invite them, especially since they get along with you. Since your dad's wife's kids are under 18, you don't have to invite the, especially since that side isn't very pleasant

Based on these minimal details lol, I’d invite mom’s boyfriend + children AND unless they are evil, dad’s girlfriend + children.

I would let dad’s girlfriend know that it’s fine if her children do not attend. For some 14 yo's, weddings aren’t your first choice if there’s something else going on with your social group lol.

The extended family would depend on my relationship with them and if I had enough “room”. I don’t think you have to extend the invitations equally on both sides in this case.

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I agree with this! The other children are technically adults as well, so you're good!

Oh wow I mean that's tough but it seems u already have your awnser in so many words. Whatever u want and makes u most comfortable I say go for that POSITIVE VIBES ONLY🤷‍♀️😁 GOOD LUCK!