To invite or not to invite

You are definitely not obligated to invite coworkers. You are renting items from them, so they are a vendor. If she asks, you can always mention the guest count if you wish. But I really don’t think you need to invite a part time coworker, even if they are handling the logistics of your rental.

There is always a lot of societal pressure to invite certain people to your wedding. But it is YOUR wedding. You are not obligated to invite anyone that you don't want to.

I have a few co-workers coming to my wedding. But only the ones that we are friendly with and spend time with outside of the office.

If you are renting tables from this person, then the relationship is that of a vendor. As the poster above said.

You note that inviting her would mean you feel obligated to invite your other coworkers and their spouses. Are you ready to take on the finances of an entire table worth of extra people?

When facing the decision of whether to invite someone or not, I say just think of who you want to surround you on this important day. Are these people part of that vision? Will they contribute to the right loving atmosphere? If yes, invite them. If no, don't feel pressure.

Contrary to popular belief, because you are in charge of who is invited, no one can make you feel bad unless you allow them. That includes inviting people you don’t like or have no relationship with to please other people (including but not limited to coworkers, relatives and friend of parents) if it means you will be on edge and not enjoy yourself at your own wedding. Will your wedding be a happier occasion if they attend? If so, then invite them. If you are doubtful for even a second, don’t invite them.


Do you regularly hang out with these coworkers outside of happy hour or working hours? Going to lunch once a year isn’t regular hanging out. Regularly going to each other’s houses for dinner or parties is. If this one coworker makes you uncomfortable, don’t entertain the thought for a nanosecond. If they want to celebrate with you, they can host a shower for you that doesn’t require you to invite them out of obligation.