To invite, or not to invite- that is the question.

I would ask your sister her opinion. He's not really your friend, he's hers. Maybe he'd like them all to be invited in this situation, then again, maybe he doesn't like to have his family around while he's working because of possible distractions. As long as you don't mind if all four of them come, I'd leave it up to your sister. If she doesn't know how they handle situations like yours, she can always ask them!

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I’d actually argue that it’s not up to your sister. This is your wedding, not hers. I’m sure you have your own friends that you would like to fit within your maximum guest count first. Seeing as he is her friend, not yours, if this were HER wedding, then yeah she would need to consider inviting them all.


I let my sister have a plus one to my wedding. She asked one of her best friends to come. My family knows her family a bit, but we did not invite all 7 of them to our wedding (the girls’ sisters are married/engaged, so would have needed to include them too!) My husband and I had dear friends of ours we wanted to fit in our max count whom we are way closer to.
Honestly I don’t think the DJ friend would mind and I’m sure he would understand.

As a working professional DJ, you hope to get referrals from satisfied clients and friends, so you're not doing a favor, it's business. The entire transaction is business and he is a hired professional, assuming you are paying him a just wage. Therefore, you do not have to extend invites to his family. You are not offering to invite your other vendors' families.

Would you invite them if he weren't DJing for you? It's not expected or necessary to invite vendors' families, so you have to consider your relationship with them besides that.

I definitely do not feel there would be the expectation that his family would be invited. You are hiring him to provide a professional service, so the transaction should remain professional.

If he is a hired vendor, you don't need to invite the family. I agree that the sister doesn't really need to weigh in on this.

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Would you invite the family if he was not a friendor? If no, then don’t stress. Sister can feel whatever she wants privately but it is irrelevant to the situation because she is not making the guest list or covering expenses.

You are hiring him as a vendor
It’s not personal it’s business.
I would say no. Because it’s business.

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You don't not need to invite them he us there to work and they can a distraction. And your not obligated to do that now if you chose to ok but I will say no unless you know his wife but I'm sure she understands. We are not family little kids at our big day

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