To invite or not to invite coworkers

This sounds potentially very problematic. Are you the supervisor of some you want to invite and some you don't? I don't think inviting anyone from work would be a good idea in that case.

If the ones you do want to invite are just colleagues, not subordinates, and it's well established that you have close relationships with them, then go ahead and invite them. Ask them directly for their home addresses so you can mail them invitations. Don't hand out any invitations at work and don't encourage any wedding talk at work.

I'm not inviting any of my coworkers because my situation is similar to yours. I work for a small family owned business and in inviting only my department I'd be inviting some people I don't actually want there and leaving out others who I'm closer to but don't fit nicely into a group to add.

Especially since you're their supervisor, I think it's a little odd to invite them in the first place considering you don't normally hang out outside of work. If you do invite them then ask each person for their address, don't get it from company paperwork or hand invitations out in the office. I'd seriously reconsider inviting them though, because you won't want any office drama surrounding your wedding and planning.

Hello! First of all congrats!
While I'm sure you would love to invite those selected workers, it would be best to just not invite any of them. Especially if you are afraid of them talking. My thought process is if nobody can go then they can't say anything because none of them were there. So, if you end up not inviting them don't mention about invitations because then they will wonder if they will get one.

Oh, in that case, I wouldn't invite anyone from work. I don't think it's appropriate for supervisors to invite supervisees to their weddings. The gifting aspect alone has the likelihood to make this really uncomfortable.

Hi,

I have a similar situation where I am very close with some of the people I supervise - I have already been reminded that if I invite some people who I perform performance reviews on and not all - it creates a potential for employees to claim preferential treatment. It sucks because some of them truly are my close friends (I have been there over 15 years) but they understand it would be a thin line and hard to know whom to include versus not.

I am not inviting anyone from work - but I will be bringing back gifts for the office from our honeymoon destination (one stop will be in Maine so I will but a bunch of blueberry jam). It is a way to let them know I was thinking of them whiteout getting into any potential negative situations with HR.

I agree with the pp in that I don't think you should invite any of them. All you're going to do is cause issues in the work place and you don't need that. Just my opinion .

I invited four people I work with - one who is my only direct report and I work very closely with, and the other three I work "parallel" with. My company has over 200 employees though, and the four I invited are all people I hang out with outside of work. Whether or not you have relationships with people and spend time with them outside your work environment can be a good indicator as to whether they are truly friends worthy of inviting to your wedding, or just colleagues.

My husband invited a few coworkers (again people we spend time with outside of work), but purposefully kept them out of his wedding party. Even though he probably spends significantly more time with some of them than his other groomsmen (we've gone on vacation with his coworkers and regularly watch each others dogs when someone is away), he wanted to have some work/wedding separation and didn't want to have to deal with having a work related conflict with a groomsman.

I think if you are in a position where you want to invite about half of the people you work with, and only some of the people who report to you and not others, it gets very very tricky. That's where I think the "do I see this person outside of work" cutoff is really helpful. If you don't see these people outside of work, it seems safest not to invite any of them.