Arianna
Devoted September 2021

To include chair or not? Maybe only a couple?

Arianna, on May 11, 2021 at 5:29 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 47
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Hey ladies! So long story short my fiancé wants to have chairs for guests to sit at the wedding and I don’t see a point for 15 minutes. My soon to be mother in law suggested maybe half the number of people they say yes to coming (so 80 rsvp but provide only 40 chairs for older guests) I’ve been to weddings that don’t have chairs at all and I have been to wedding where they were provided. My one vendor also told me not everyone comes to the ceremony anyways and with it strict budget I would like to keep the chairs low in price or not have to worry about them at all. Thanks in advance!!

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Latest activity by Elly, on May 14, 2021 at 2:57 AM
  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I feel like you should have seats for everyone that RSVP’s yes. Regardless of how long the ceremony is, people don’t want to stand. Also keep in mind that many people won’t be able to see anything with others standing.
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  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
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    I have honestly never attended a wedding without chairs for the ceremony. Even though the ceremony itself may be 15 minutes, most people come 15-20 minutes early, so they would be standing for like a half hour minimum. Some people may have difficulties with that, especially if they have health conditions or are in heels or something. I would have the chairs, as I would personally be thrown off if I came to a wedding and there was no seating for the ceremony.
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  • Arianna
    Devoted September 2021
    Arianna ·
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    The people who are standing will be in the back. The way that I have imagine it set up is all the chairs in the front and space in the back. But I understand what your saying.
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  • C
    Devoted April 2020
    Cool ·
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    You should have chairs for all guests attending. I have never been to a wedding without seating and would be very displeased to find that. Standing in heels and walking in heels are totally different - that will kill your guests feet. It also wouldn’t be visually pleasing in photos.
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
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    I don't think any guest should be asked to stand during a wedding ceremony. Every butt needs a seat.

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  • Lisa
    Super October 2021
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    I agree with the others, you need to have chairs for each guest that RSVP's.

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  • Sarah
    Master September 2019
    Sarah ·
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    I’ve never attended a wedding where there wasn’t seating for the ceremony and I’ve also never seen a wedding where guests didn’t show up for the ceremony. I’d have chairs for anyone who rsvps yes.
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  • Arianna
    Devoted September 2021
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    I’ve been to a wedding where no chairs were provided and it was fine and this past week I went to a wedding where 50% of the rsvps didn’t show up for that ceremony but did for cocktail and reception.
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  • M
    Super June 2021
    Melanie ·
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    Everyone should have a chair in my opinion. I wouldn't say anything, but I'd definitely think of the bride and groom as cheap if I showed up and there were no/limited chairs
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  • Arianna
    Devoted September 2021
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    Understandable. I’ve been to a wedding at a park actually were we stood no chairs provided and it wasn’t to bad. But that makes sense.
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  • Arianna
    Devoted September 2021
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    Understandable. I went to a wedding at a park and they didn’t have chairs and it still looked beautiful. But I see where your coming from.
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  • L
    Dedicated April 2022
    Liz ·
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    I will agree with others and say I’ve never been to a wedding where there weren’t chairs at the ceremony (and I used to work for a photobooth company and have been to a ton of weddings). I would provide chairs for everyone who rsvp’s yes.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
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    Chairs for every guest are a no brained. Guests will be sitting longer than the ceremony time. Plus you can’t tell by looking who has mobility issues and can’t stand long periods.

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  • Arianna
    Devoted September 2021
    Arianna ·
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    I was going to provide about half of the people who rsvp and the older people that are coming.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
    Samantha ·
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    There ceremony is 15 mins, most people get there about 15 minutes early. That’s standing around for 30 mins. That’s a long time to stand in one spot.
    I get you want to save money, weddings are expensive. Maybe cut down on flowers or something that’s nice but doesn’t affect duties as a host.
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  • Samantha
    Rockstar October 2022
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    What will happen is the early people will sit down, no matter age. When the seats run out, most people aren’t going to ask people to get up to let them take their seats, even if they are older, in pain, etc. They’ll just stand there and be uncomfortable.
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  • Arianna
    Devoted September 2021
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    I have nothing to cut down that’s the problem. I’m using all fake flowers, I’m making everything, I have a cater and my moms paying for a photographer. I bought a used dresses (nothing wrong with it but cutting corners) it’s just stressful. But I see where you are coming from. I didn’t have a problem standing at the wedding that I went to and we had to stand but again I see what your saying.
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  • Nicole
    VIP September 2020
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    Are your ceremony and reception in the same location? If so, can you utilize the reception chairs for the ceremony? We were going to pay our caterer a little extra to move the chairs from the ceremony to the tables at the reception. I also was at a wedding this past weekend where they used the same chairs for both ceremony and reception. Granted, in that one, guests had to move their own chairs, which is less than ideal, but still better than not having a chair during the ceremony (especially because the ceremony started an hour late, which would have been exhausting to stand around waiting for).

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  • ScandalousRandallous
    Devoted July 2022
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    You absolutely need seats for everyone who has RSVPʻed. People will arrive early, have mobility or pain issues, wear heels to look nice, etc.

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    Savvy June 2021
    Meena ·
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    Hi, Arianna! I am one of those people others are talking about; I have chronic back pain, and can't stand longer than a few minutes before my lower back is screaming. If I were invited to a wedding with no seating, I would have no choice but to leave quietly, and have a seat in my car. I completely understand where you are coming from, money is tight for a lot of us. Best wishes to you both!
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