To evite or not to evite is the question.

February is way to early to send invites for a November wedding. I would send out save the dates in February and then send invites closer to the wedding

Why thank you, and under normal circumstances that’s completely true. However we are both prior military and some of guest are stationed over seas. So we are giving them a bigger window.

Evites often get caught in spam filters or disregarded. I wouldn't use them for an important event.

View Quoted Comment I would send Save The Dates then. That is way too far in advance for invites and people will forget.

I don't like e-vites and think they aren't formal enough for a wedding. You don't have to spend a ton on paper wedding invitations but I think they're important.

View Quoted Comment That is what save the dates are for. Invites should require a response no sooner than a month before. Sending them out that early means people will set it to the side and forget. It will cause a lot of extra work for you. I also would only do evites if it’s an extremely casual wedding.

Send Evite Save the Dates in Feb.
Send real invites 8-10 weeks before the wedding.

I agree with PPs about sending STDs in February rather than full out invites.
My personal opinion is evites are too casual for such an important event.

I agree that save the dates sent in February would work to make sure your guests have time to make arrangements to travel for your wedding. I do think it’s more appropriate to send the invites closer to the wedding. I would use E-save the dates to save on postage and paper. It’s ultimately up to you, but I personally don’t think e-vites for the actual wedding invitations would be a good idea. You can find affordable options and paper invites make it feel more like a wedding and less like a birthday party or less important event!

Good luck!

I don't think evites are tacky. I've been to several weddings with evites and thought they were fine; but make sure you also have a website to make everything seems more digital and cohesive. You'd also definitely need to spend more times contacting your guests and making sure they've seen the invites though.

Most people will tell you it’s tacky but i really Don’t think it is. However i ended Up deciding to do e save the dates and paper invites with a wedding website instead of rsvp cards and saved a ton of money making my invite through Walmart.com and they still look great.

I had this question when I was getting married and a friend of mine who has been to many weddings has said he received them and yes it was easier to rsvp, but he did say it affected the gift he gave them. I thought it was interesting. For your overseas guests, let them know via email or phone when you’re wedding is ASAP, so they can make the necessary arrangements, but I would send the STD’s in February and then the invitations end of summer or so for a November wedding.

I used Greenvelope and loved it! It's not free like evites, but it was affordable and so handy. I could resend invitations, schedule, see when one was opened, see graphs and charts of entree choices ... so much. It even had a section where I could generate my reception tables and seating charts based. And it was beautiful because they thousands of options were created by graphic artists. I also don't think I would have received timely RSVPs without going digital, based on my friends and family. For the most part, it was well received.

I agree with PPs send out your save the dates in February electronically or not, and for the people you’re concerned with that need that extra time to plan you can always call them specifically and just see if they got the save the date and give them anymore information they might need. then as you get closer send out your official invitations and you can do both Evite and paper invitations that way your covered on all bases if your worried that it will be harder to send paper overseas and make sure they get it on time

Electronic save the dates are fine, but I think they're way too casual for an invitation. They may be okay for a very casual back yard wedding, but I would even be hesitant about that.

I don't necessarily think they're "tacky" per se, but they are definitely very informal. If I received an evite I would assume it is a casual wedding.

I think you should send a save the date in February to give friends/family overseas a heads up about that date and that they would be invited but that is way too early for the actual invite.

I think e-vites get stuck in spam folders a lot of the time. This might work best for save the dates since they are more casual than an invite but I'd still do a paper invite!

If I got an evite for a wedding, I'd probably forget about it or not take it seriously to RSVP. It would probably get lost in my email.