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To do a first look or not?

Kamerin, on March 11, 2017 at 6:08 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 41
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Debating on whether or not to do a first look. I like the idea of getting all the photos out of the way first, but also like the idea of the "big reveal"!

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Latest activity by Emily, on March 13, 2020 at 8:38 PM
  • S.ME
    Expert September 2017
    S.ME ·
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    We opted for it for the photo reason you mentioned. We want to be done with the formal shots before anything starts so we can fully enjoy the whole reception. But also because I feel we will have more of an opportunity to enjoy our "big reveal" moment personally... I'll get to hear from my FH what he thinks and get to talk to him when he sees me as opposed to reaching him at the end of the "aisle" and only being able to exchange smiles and looks as the ceremony begins.

    It just has to be what you feel will mean the most to you and FH. ETA: big reveal not bug reveal lol!

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  • Fraziers2017
    Just Said Yes June 2017
    Fraziers2017 ·
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    Yes same here! i want to do it but my wedding is at a hotel and some people are staying there. I don't want anyone to slip up and see me.

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  • Colleen
    Dedicated June 2017
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    We are Not doing a first look. He wants the surprise of seeing me as I walk down the aisle.

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  • S.ME
    Expert September 2017
    S.ME ·
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    Fraziers, check with the hotel, they may have a private space you can use and possibly escort you to avoid bumping into anyone.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    Definitely do it. Why would you want to waste precious time at your wedding taking pictures?

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  • FutureMrsReed
    Devoted July 2017
    FutureMrsReed ·
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    We are doing a first look. I get really nervous and to help calm me before hand we decided a first look would benefit us. It also helps get all the pictures out of the way (I don't like when you wait 1-3 hours for the bridal party to take their pictures). FH is very supportive and his family is old fashion as in you don't see the bride before she walks down the aisle. As soon as I brought up a first look he said yes right away and stood his ground when we told his family.

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  • FutureMrsLittle
    Super September 2018
    FutureMrsLittle ·
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    I love the big reveal I just know him seeing me walk down the aisle is going to be one of those moments he will never forget

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  • YourBiggestFan
    Devoted March 2017
    YourBiggestFan ·
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    Most of my friends have done/plan to do first looks for timing purposes and the opportunity to have the emotional moment be more private. We aren't doing one for several reasons (aren't having a ton of posed photos, shorter photographer timeline) but mainly because FH said it was very important to him that his first sight of me being that moment walking down the aisle. This is the only thing he's requested through the whole process so I am happy to accommodate it.

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  • That'll Be Mrs Small 2 U
    Super April 2017
    That'll Be Mrs Small 2 U ·
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    My FH and I are not doing a first look. He has been very adamant since day one about him not seeing me until I walk down the aisle. I understand why people do a first look and I love the idea but to see his full reaction at the end of that aisle will be one that we never forget. It's all up to what you and hubby want. For me personally, "posed photos" don't mean as much to me as the memory does. Some things you just never forget.

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  • Celia Milton
    Celia Milton ·
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    Almost all of my couples do a first look so they dont' miss the cocktail hour, they can visit with their guests, and their first look lasts more than 30 seconds. I think for some couples, that first look on the aisle is terrifying especially since they haven't been able to spend any time together all day, and for most of the evening they'll be pulled in different directions.

    As the other person at the end of the aisle, I can tell you it's monumental moment, even if you've seen each other.

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  • TeamGrz
    Expert May 2018
    TeamGrz ·
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    We are not doing a first look. One of the only requests that my FH has made so far is not to see me before the "big reveal" when walking down the aisle.

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  • BiggMama
    Devoted April 2017
    BiggMama ·
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    We are not doing a first look because we wanted the element of surprise. He hasn't e en seen my shoes. He asked for me to please try and wait until the wedding day so he could see me then.

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  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
    ambrok ·
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    Fri wedding here so we are definitely doing a 1st look. This way we can push our ceremony later in the day & guests won't have to take off as much time from work...

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  • fsumissa
    Super March 2017
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    We did a first look and I am very glad we did. We spent about an hour taking the romantic and fun pictures. Then got pics with the family after the ceremony. Had so much more time to sow d with the first I think.

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  • GoingBALDwin!!!!!
    Master April 2017
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    I am against the first look. I can understand and respect the 'pros' to doing one. However, I strongly feel it would ruin the moment of walking down the aisle. I've been waiting my whole life for that moment and I won't let it get taken away just to eat appetizers with my guest. I can see them at the reception. The ceremony is for me and FH. Cocktail hour and the reception is for the guest. That's my opinion

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  • MAMW
    VIP August 2013
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    We did a first look and I loved it. We had a wonderful, private moment (even though the photographer was there, it still felt very private) together before we got married, and I thought the moment I saw my husband when I walked down the aisle was still special in it's own way.

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  • Taylor
    Expert October 2017
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    As wonderful as those pictures are, I can't wrap my head around him seeing me before I come down the isle.

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  • Alicia
    Devoted October 2017
    Alicia ·
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    We are doing a first look. For the photo opportunity before ceremony, and it might be the only time we really have alone until the wedding night is over

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  • reirei
    Super June 2017
    reirei ·
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    Not doing one. I think the big reveal is way more romantic.

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  • K
    Devoted April 2017
    Kimberley ·
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    At first I did not want to do first look pictures because I wanted the first time FH saw me in my dress to be me walking down the aisle but our ceremony is in Aruba at 430 and were told that the sun sets extremely quickly due to it being so close to the equator so we decided to do first looks so we had nice pictures on the beach in the daytime. It is ultimately up to you, to each their own

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