Tired of hearing this..RANT.

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So true!

PREACH!

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Couldn't agree more!!

The only work my family will be doing on my wedding day is my sister/MOH helping me with my dress when I pee.

@A.L.C girl I hear ya there!

Amen. And if you still insist on doing "YOUR special day YOUR way" please don't give people shitty etiquette advice.

Totally agree with this about the not inconveniencing friends and family. I have said It's your day a few times- but it was regarding a wedding gown that Mom didn't like, or Mom wanted their wedding to be a certain way and was not contributing at all. Basically stuff like opinions of others that have no need of being considered. Definitely do not agree with It's your day make your guests pay for their own drinks and eat food at your self catered wedding! Lol.

I agree in part but at the same time we have friends and family for a reason, we help eachother. I'm not having my family work at a big reception but my fathers gf is doing my hair before and my sister/ maid of honor is doing my makeup...the gf volunteered and I asked my sister but it's something she loves to do.

I think this is overly generalized and critical.

Yes yes yes! This!

Well said

@angela I stated "inconvenience" meaning putting someone "out". My best friend/MOH is a professional hair stylist and offered to do my hair for me as well. Of course I said yes! That's completely different then asking my mom to cook a spaghetti dinner for the entire guest count.

I agree! Even more to the point, it is not just the bride's day! It is about the bride AND the groom! Some people seem to forget that a wedding is about two people and not just one...

Ding ding ding. When I am celebrating something or hosting, the number thing I want to make sure is my guests are having a good time.

Last thing I want to hear is people were bored or unhappy. People may offer and it's family and friends but you have to know when to draw the line. Small things are fine but if there is no comfort, food or drinks considered, then that's just bad.

Concur!

I just keep being told the opposite.

"This day isn't just for you, you know" is something I've been told on multiple occasions by FH family.

Annoying as fuck. Especially considering I haven't asked them for any help, and they aren't paying for anything, and they got their own guest list, and they get a say in the seating plan.

If this day was about me I would have been able to invite my friends, but instead I'm spending all my money on their gigantic family.

I honestly already don't think the day is for or about me at all. Hearing it over and over is making me pretty f-in salty.

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Spot on. The moment you include anyone other than you, FH, and an officiant/pastor/JoP, it is no longer "just your day" or "all about you."

I cannot agree more - as soon as a single guest is invited, it is no longer just about the couple. The ceremony? Yes. Guests comfort at said ceremony? No. The reception? Hell no. That is a thank you to the guests who came, and isn't about the couple anymore. Don't like it? Don't invite a billion of your "nearest and dearest".